I agree that he might have trouble if that is his first name since most people are familiar with Tristan and will assume that is his name.
The other think is that it is just so darn hard to say! It might make a handsome middle though!
I feel like my mouth is closed the whole time I say it, like there isn't room for the vowels to come out. It just doesn't feel nice to say it. Tristan is much more open and crisp, but if you don't like that one then keep looking at similar names.
I love the name Tristram! I like the way it looks on paper and the way it sounds, its a fresh break from all the Tristans i see. I would totally use it on a boy but alas i have family members named Tristan....
I say, go for gold!
The Tristan's in my family all have the nn Tristy, which could be used for Tristram too, i suppose? its a cute nn.
As the mom of a 29-year-old "Tristan," I am tickled by everyone referring to "all the Tristans" and mentioning that a "Tristram" might have to keep explaining that he wasn't "Tristan." MY "Tristan" -- named well before "Legends of the Fall" -- had to spend some time explaining that he wasn't "Christian" (or worse yet "Kristen") because no one had ever heard his name. That did bug him a bit until he was around 18. I remember him then saying,"Wow, Mom, girls think my name is so romantic and cool!" Now he makes his living as a musician in a band and appreciates that the world has "caught up" with the name -- which is, indeed, a cool name for a musician. So -- although I personally think the "an" ending on "Tristan" sounds stronger than the "ram" ending on "Tristram," that could just be a function of my generation (with all the "Jasons" and "Justins.") So, I say go with whichever you prefer and let the world catch up. ;-) One other possible variation you might consider (and that we almost chose) is "Tristam." (Again, he might have to explain that the last letter of his name is an "m" and not an "n," but so what. It would make him sound fresher than being one of "all the Tristans" but -- to me -- has a sharper, crisper, less tongue-twister sound than the double-r of "Tristram.")
I would probably really adore the name Tristram if I didn't find a little bit hard to say :/ which is a shame, because it's got a very cool sound, cool associations, and a cool history.
What great advice.
My husband is a musician!
I think this has pretty much made me sure.
Our baby will be some variant of Tristan/ram/ran.
I like all three ways to pronounce it.
Thanks so much xx