You are all the most beautiful and inspiring ladies ever. Who knew weddings could look so fun? Kristen & Al, I've already gushed over you two, but ooooooh that cake looks yummy, Al! And how cute is your little flower girl, K? Adorable.
Bethan, the carousel idea is so sweet! Looks like a nice wedding.
Poppy, love those photo's, I kind of wish I'd have a Jewish wedding...
Maggie, the dress and the location are breathtaking! Lovely. Who knew the Canadian parliament looks like a fairy castle?
Dina, private it says! ;)
Lex, whosa, I will have to write those things down! The idea for Roo is lovely though... Love it!
Cat, so cute! You two look so in love and so young... afraid my wedding pics won't be that cute.
I have some ideas, will post them later...
More stories and photos please! We want to see them all.
fixed my link... :) This is a fun thread!
Thanks for starting this thread, Ottilie! I've been a little disheartened by wedding planning, but I'm finding all of the pictures and stories here sort of encouraging. We were supposed to get married in June, but the bottom sort of fell out of our finances. I had been planning for months and was fairly devastated when we had to postpone. We were planning on having it at the boat club where my mom has a slip. We were going to have people camp and play in the water all weekend. We were planning on having a catered picnic (little boxed lunches from the local bakery) after the ceremony.And my fiance had already gotten the circuit court judge to perform the ceremony and bartered legal services for the photography. But alas. It wasn't meant to be.
I think one of the hardest things about planning a wedding is handling all the demands from friends and family. I know that when I heard horror stories about demanding mothers or bridesmaids before I started the planning process, I thought, "Well my family is nothing like that!" Boy, was I wrong. If I asked any advice or gave a hint of what I was planning, they were all over me with "helpful" "suggestions." I was taken aback by their insistence that they offer their opinions on every detail of my wedding. My mother always prefaces her advice with, "Well it's your wedding, do whatever you want to do, but..."
Our new date is October 5, but my heart just isn't in the planning. I'm not sure I can go through that whole process again. I keep threatening to elope, but I think our mothers would kill us.
ottilie I'm probably the opposite from what you want. We felt that we had guests coming from multiple countries on three continents, and from all over the US, and wanted to honor their commitment by giving them a proportionately nice evening. It was a black tie sort of thing. We married in a cathedral with 5 clergy, had a cocktail hour under the stars on Miami Beach, and then formal dinner/wild dancing in the ballroom with these incredible 40-foot tall windows.
I like bright colors so used turquoise, teal, lime, black & aquamarine with fuschia/orange accents. Since we married in the tropics I wanted to reflect that. I went to Mood Fabrics in NY and bought the raw silk for the table linens myself.
@Ottilie, what are the details that you do have planned? Colors? Size of the bridal party?
@Rosey, I totally hear you. I thought my family would never cause that dreaded wedding stress. But wow. It was mostly on the in-law side. My sisters are my heart so they can get away with being mouthy to me and I just get mouthy back. But how do I politely tell my mother-in-law that THESE ARE THE FLOWERS I WANT AND THIS IS THE CAKE I WANT AND YOU GOT TO PLAN YOUR WEDDING AND I'M SORRY YOU THINK THIS IS ALL HIDEOUS BUT IT WILL NOT BE THE END OF THE WORLD.
Changing wedding seasons is also a downer, so I can see how that could affect your enthusiasm. My wedding was supposed to be a January winter night wedding. All of my plans were for a gorgeous, sparkling winter wedding! My accident pushed it back three months (I was healed in time, but working through PTSD), so it became a spring wedding. I HATE spring. I think spring is hideous. But it ended up being just perfect (and it ended up being on my grandparents' 56th wedding anniversary, so we had a really cool song and cake presentation for them at the reception!). I think that as your date approaches, you will start to get exited again. Weddings should not be stressful. This is a celebration of YOU AND HIM. A celebration. A party. How would you most like to celebrate? What is your ideal party? What would be the most fun for you? Maybe all the trappings of these traditional, over-priced weddings aren't your cup of tea. Maybe you prefer something completely off the wall. Think outside the box. You're celebrating the BEST thing that ever happened to you, so do it your way, not anyone else's way.
Guys, this stuff is all so pretty!
Here is mine from this past December, the "Faerie Love Tea Party Enchanted Swamp Holiday Wedding Spectacular"
It was really fun and we did it very inexpensively.
Dina, you are so stunning! You and hubs to be are going to make beautiful babies.
Rosey, that is sucky. My mother doesn't care about weddings (she likes them, but she wants us to do what we want as she was pressured into something she didn't want to do) and my soon to be MIL has already had three upper crust weddings, and she knows my boyfriend wants something different. I'm grateful no one's butting in. I hope you'll get your special wedding!
Blade, that is so beautiful. I love it! Looks like you!
Alzora, we've invited 80 people (and their children), but we'll see who makes it. Lots of our friends live in Oz and America, and not sure if they'll make it over... I've almost decided on the wedding dress and that's about it. Been busy with a certain little madam ;)
Moonkai, now there's a wedding! How charming and delightful and fun! And that little fairy is cute as a button.
Thank you for starting this thread! This is so much fun, I adore weddings! I have never met a wedding I don't like. :) And all of your pictures have just been gorgeous!
Ottilie, Dindlee and Rosey (and any other engaged berries), congrats on the engagements and happy wedding planning! Rosey, I'm sorry to hear that you feel a bit disheartened by the planning process. It can be overwhelming, especially if your family is demanding. I found the best response was to listen politely, say "thanks! That's a great idea!" and then just do whatever I wanted to do in the first place!
We got married this past October, after a 16 month engagement period, during which time both my brother and my sister were married! (poor parents!) so I had lots of time to figure things out and no stress. It worked well for me, but I can see some people going crazy waiting that long! I am not an arts and crafts person, although I do like the look (like MrsH's wedding!), so I paid people to do everything. haha. It made my life so much easier and kept me from freaking out. I agree with what Lexie had to say - great advice! And many others have given great advice too. :)
Okay, I haven't posted pictures before, so I am going to go try to figure it out! be back soon with pics!
ETA - Dindlee, we invited 280 people, but ended up with 210 after all the single people didn't bring +1s (which I really appreciated!) I'm not sure if 280 is your final number or your final invite count, but if it's the latter, you might end up with fewer. I know it's big, but I didn't find 210 too overwhelming, and I loved not having to cut anyone out of our guest list!
@Rosey - awwww, that bites, but if it helps I had an October wedding and it was beautiful. The temperature is just right, not too hot, not too cold, and the changing of the leaves makes for beautiful outdoor pictures. I recommend finding a park with a lot of trees, that's what we did and our favorite photos are the ones at the park! So I hope that helps you get a little more excited :)
I got married in the "olden days" before everyone did digital photography. We got our wedding pics on cd rom, hot stuff back then, lol. But I will see what I can find...had a few on photobucket before it got all stupid on me...
My mom made my dress from a pattern of a princess halloween costume. DH had a purple vest and wore sandals...my bridesmades wore purple dip dye skirts and white eyelet tank tops, the groomsmen wore purple vests in in a different shade than DH. We got married in the crazy church we attended at the time, reception in the hall downstairs from there...but we are both pretty low key that is just our style. The wedding is one day, not to say it shouldnt be special and exactly what you want but one day and so we did it cheap and easy. I would have loved to elope or get married outside but my parents were paying for it and very big into us *not* getting married outside (eloping, we would have done in secret) and we were both young, so sort of followed their rules. ;) We plan on having a recommitment ceremony at our 20th (gosh, only 8ish years away!) and *will* do that outside.