I was just wondering about everyone's beliefs in sibsets. Do you think that for a good sibset they all have to be the same style or theme? Do you think maybe all of one gender can have the same style while the other gender has a completely different style? I don't know if that make sense but it does in my head haha..
For instance, me and my boyfriend just happened to realize all the little girl names we liked are very pretty, feminine, french names: Colette, Elodie, etc. but for boys we like strong, more american(?) names like Jack and Evan. So if we like the french names should our boys be just as french or should our girls get switched to more classic choices? See what I mean now... what are your thoughts in general?? Do you guys have any "sibset rules" you go by?
In general I do like it when sibsets are:
harmonious with one another
- have a similar number of letters (this doesn't mean both FN have to be 5 letters but spread out across the FN and MN)
- usually have the same number of mn (unless there is a family tradition reason why not)
- and at least sound nice pronounced in the same language. (But don't need the same origin).
- Also same trendyness/style factor. If you are going to mis-spell one kids name please do that for all of them.
Personally I don't think sibsets generally have to match. I mean just pick names that both you and your partner mutually agree on.
On my mum's side her and her sibling don't have matching names Patricia, Ruby, Guy & Corinne. Ruby is kind of the odd one out in comparison to her sisters. This cousin sibset on my dad's side Jasmin, Samuel, Shelby & Sheridan....Jasmin is the odd one out, all the rest have "s" names.
I am so mixed. Sometimes I really like to have names that have patterns in them. Just today I made.
Nova Calliope and Inez Penelope and Mavis Evangeline and Hazel Rosamund
The pattern V,Z,V,Z
Now thats just for fun. Whats important to me is that I love every name. I love Nova, Inez, Mavis and Hazel so I guess in a way that is a practical sibset for me. I don't really feel like the same style is super important. But I am weird and I like names to have the same feel if that makes sense.
Now I know people won't say Nova, Inez, Mavis and Hazel are the same style. But to me they feel the same.
I also want them to sound good together and not be too close. The above mentioned names might be.
Those are my rules, I guess.
I agree with just having the need to love every single name in the set no matter if it fits or doesn't. I think what happens is that children grow into names and siblings grow into a family so they just sound good together.
I was just wondering everyone else's opinions cause it always seems like people are posting threads wondering if their names are okay together.
Sometimes I make patterns just for fun! Like rhyming middles or all nature name middles.
But my biggest idea with sibsets is that if all your kids have great, meaningful names don't give one child a name that means something not so nice. Like my siblings are Nicole, Daniel, and Stephen: victory of the people, he who judges (but he has a kick ass bible story!), and crown. While mine is Emily and I'm rival... which I guess kinda fits cause i'm the typical "baby" *cough* favorite :)
I don't think it matters. Matchy sets can be nice but so can mixed ones.
I love the names Mira Sorvino picked for her kids: Mattea, Johnny, Holden, and Lucia. The girls are Italian feminissima, the boys are all-American. But it's kinda cool, cause the boys match dad Chris and the girls match mom Mira.
I love it when I see a Benjamin with an Aria, or a Clementine with an Io. It's nice to be surprised.
Ooh. As someone with number 4 due soon we are struggling with finding a name. I do like things to matchy matchy but I am making it hard for myself.
We have George, Ingrid & Arthur. Firstly they are all royal names - a complete coincidence but why stop there.... Only I can't find any other royal names that tickle my fancy. The. They all have out doorsy meanings ( and we are outdoorsy people). Farmer; natures beauty; bear. Nope. Still can't find one that fits. Ho hum. Looks like ill have to break the mould this time.……
I think sibling names should compliment each other but don't necessarily have to match. For example, Jayden and Josephine are a no in my book. But Jayden and Madison and Josephine and Benedict are fine by me.
They're separate human beings so I don't think their names need to match at all.
I think it's fine to go with whatever "rules" appeal to you and your partner. Everyone I talk to seems to have different criteria for name choice... be it popularity ranking or country of origin.
For us, we like names that are familiar but not commonly used. We went with 2 syllable names for the first two kids. While I was thinking 2 or 3 syllables, we wound up with another 2 syllable for baby #3. We also like obvious nicknames that we like equally as well as the long version.
Our kiddos are Wesley/Wes, Dexter/Dex, Beatrix/Bea
Others I like that fit the pattern are Frederick/Fred, Sylvia/Sylvie, Leonard/Len, Juniper/June, Dorothy/Dot, Mavis/Mae... some even take it further with a short E sound and 1 syllable nn.
Not sure if we are finished having kids yet so I don't know if we will continue these patterns exactly or not. A lot comes down to a name we can both agree on!
It's funny too how you can plan things a certain way but in real life, the names don't land exactly the way you think. I now know two other Wesley's 3yo and under. So the name took an upswing in popularity several years after we picked it. Love his name and wouldn't change it, but didn't predict that. Also no one can pronouce Beatrix with two syllables. They all want to say Be-a-trix or worse Be-a-trice... Hasn't anyone heard of Beatrix Potter? ;)
Love your name choices! I have always liked Arthur but it clashes with our last name so I couldn't use it. I considered George and Georgia each time. :) Good luck! I'm sure you'll pick another great name. I too tend to overthink the name thing... but it is fun too.
Originally Posted by bub4madmum