I think the descriptions on this site are meant to be a bit tongue-in-cheek, but, still, sometimes they're a little offensive. Like when I come across a name I think is nice, look it up, and am pretty much told I'm wrong for liking it. For example, I really like Darcy for a boy. I know it's used as a girls name. But the description - "a bit feminine for an American boy" - is off-putting. I felt a bit demoralised when I read it. I had to remind myself that it's only one person's opinion of the name.
By the way, I have NO IDEA why the name India is controversial.
India is an offensive name. The rest of the world doesn't care...
While I agree that there is no defence for genuinely homophobic or bigoted name reviews, I would like to offer a word of support for the name entries. A huge part of the reason that I am attracted to Nameberry is because it is the only name site I have found that offers humour and a genuine opinion , not just on a name's meaning, but on the name itself. This is necessarily subjective, and not everyone is going to agree with a negative review of a name they love. This doesn't make the review offensive (i.e. stating that a name can be used for both a girl or a boy) - you may disagree, but that is similarily just your subjective opinion.
Back on topic. I've always disagreed with the 'opinions' part of the name database. I think meanings, entymology and well known name bearers are fine but any offensive opinions should be stricken from record.
Out of interest, I looked up a few of my favourite names.
Jory: 'For a girl.' ((The only comment... O_o))
Emery: 'Emery is still strong and viable for a boy, but you might want to consider Emory or Amory or Emerson as a more masculine option for your son.' ((Why would I need to alter the spelling of a boys name for a boy??))
Sigrid: 'Forever Scandinavian. Try cute diminutive Siri or more international Ingrid instead.' ((Nah cheers, I like Sigrid. That's why I clicked on it.))
Vito: 'Old World Italian name without much vigour.'
Edit:: This is harder than I thought. Some aren't even listed: Meirion, Ariella, Aneirin, Cesare, Dickon, Bridie, Aira etc etc
(Strong new James varietal, though sometimes shared by girls. A good choice to honor Grandpa Jim. It is swiftly moving up the charts, jumping from #319 to #210 in the past year alone.)
Really, off to the girls? Probably because James, is also suggested for girls.
More grown up than Jamie, but still awkward. Try Jameson...or James.
Suggesting James or Jameson for a girl and hurting the image of a valid female name.
Has a beautiful meaning, but still carries the image of an old man playing checkers.
I don't think so.
Limp-wristed? I would also like to see that removed....highly offensive!!