Their response: "Like Blight?!" His grandmother did say she liked it more and more as she said it. I just wondered if that was because she felt bad. I suppose I worried that everyone would be thinking that secretly. But, I love the advice you ladies have given. We do love it, and I think I would regret not using it. Thanks for your encouraging feedback!
I say go for it! Blythe is a lovely name that would definitely be on my list had a nearby village not already have that name. Curse Geography.
I agree with the majority of previous posters. My parents, for instance, are very, very traditional and dislike any names that don't appear on our family tree :) Thus, when the time comes for me to have children, I know they'll give me a tough time if I choose names from my current favorites. Another scenario: what if family members have completely different taste when it comes to names (i.e., they like Annalinda and Gabriella, but you like Harper and Marlowe)? While I value and respect my family's input, I think the ultimate decision about your children's names is up to you and your husband/partner. Your parents will love their sweet grandchild and, consequently, will come to accept, if not love, his/her name. Good luck!
When soliciting feedback:
A) make sure is what you really want, I.e. youre not after mere congratulations on your good taste, etc;
B) listen to it-- it's possible they might actually have good points;
C) as @augusta said, it's possible they won't have any good points. Consider the source.
Mishearing the lovely name Blythe as 'blight' is a reasonable point, I think, and one to take into consideration. it doesn't sound like they're rejecting it of hand a name hats unfamiliar to them merely because it's unfamiliar, as some families unfortunately do. However seeing it written will definitely help overcome the homonym, and if it's already growing on your amily, that's a great sign.
Blythe is so wonderful. Surely your family will come around.
How are you pronouncing it? To my ears it's far from "blight" because I pronounce the Y like "pie" rather than "ice."
The sound "Blaiyth" is just a bit slower than "Blighth," which sounds tighter, less languid and soft.
How important is family approval? Not at all! Unless you want it to be.
We don't share the name until after the baby is born. It is what it is, no matter what anyone else thinks. The family will love the baby unconditionally, and the name will grow on her to their ears. Plus, only an evil person will comment negatively about a newborn's name to a hormonal, postpartum woman.
When you're the parent, you get to choose the name, and unless you want their pre-approval, its none of their business.
I like hearing opinions and I appreciate bluntness and honesty which my family always gives me. But some people should keep the name to themselves because they can't handle it.
Although I like Blythe it is not a pretty sound; it's harsh and lispy. It's not going to be everyone's cup of tea so you'll just have to accept that. And contrary to what other Berries claim even after the child is here they may still dislike the name, doesn't mean they don't love the child. If they don't like it, they don't like it. Take it into consideration and decide if you still love the name in spite of their dislike.
I think blade above me makes some great points in the whole "name approval" game. I wouldn't fret too much in your case. Once Blythe is actually attached to a beautiful little girl, they'll come around. Some already are, as you said. They may never fall in love with it, but they'll learn to like it. If they can't get past it even after Blythe is here, baby names are not your biggest problem.
I don't speak to the majority of my family, so family approval is obviously not a big concern on any front for me. For those with whom I am still in contact, I don't foresee any problems. My mom knows I'm a name nerd and I've played with names with her for years. My stepmother and my sister have similar taste to my own.
I would go with Blythe. It really only matters what you and your dh think, it is your baby. One of my girls is named Freya and I got a lot of weird looks from both sides of our family (no name nerds among them), but you have to chose something you will be happy with. I think it helps to ask them what their suggestions are for a name. Generally it shows you what kind of names they like and if they have good taste you might listen, but Blythe is gorgeous, so most likely they don't. My parents suggested Allison & Caitlin instead (insert eye roll here).
For me, not at all.
If I had it my parents way, my daughter's name would be something like Aliyah, Rahma, Shakila, most definitely not Alessandra, Victoria, Katerina, Olivia, or Elisa.
I decided a while ago that I wouldn't let my parents opinions influence my name selections for future children. My SOs family, I'm not sure where they stand. We're not at that stage of having a family so I don't feel comfortable with bringing up name ideas to them.
If you and your husband love the name, and truly feel that it's the best choice that it doesn't matter what others really say. Blythe isn't a bad name with a negative meaning or connotations. It's just old-fashioned, which might be why they feel she'll be teased. But guess what, they can get over it. It's not a bad choice.