Very interesting and relevant thread, Blade. Thank you for taking your time to do it :)
I think the worst thing is that they don't seem to realise that their stories often are absolutely unreliable. I mean, why not be realistic if you feel a such need to make up fantasy families (or perhaps purchase Sims; I think that might be the easiest solution).
This isn't even calling people out on it (except for jc54, but she was asking for it). It's not putting a list of user names out there. It's simply stating that there is a shocking amount of fakers on here, and I don't see anything cruel or rude about it. Maybe you can elaborate on how it is "rude"? Personally, I don't judge the fakers, mainly because I am fairly certain that there are some rather serious emotional issues behind a lot of these made-up children, and I don't really see anyone else judging.
Originally Posted by madi13
Are you aware of the definition of odd? Because having say, 10 teenagers on a namesite doesn't mean it isn't odd.
Originally Posted by madi13
And the fact that you'd bring a mother's parenting skills and child into an online argument that has no relevancy to a topic is just low, completely and utterly low. If I had a child and you used that crap on me I'd rip you a new one. I can't understand why you think that kind of behaviour is okay...
You don't ever bring a mother's parenting or child into an argument that has nothing to do with either, ever.
Grow up and stop being so emotional over people calling out liars. It just makes it seem like you feel personally attacked, and therefore makes you look like one of the trolls.
And that leads me to another point:
The reason why I have such an issue with trolls is the obsessive lying factor.
I find it so amusing that many of you say "Oh why does it matter? Just let them be, they aren't hurting anyone!"
If you met a woman in a store who lied and told you some elaborate story about how she had so and so children, with so and so names, and through out your interactions you realised parts weren't adding up, you wouldn't be offended or appalled? Really?
If it was your child on here fabricating children, and making up nonsense, you wouldn't be upset? Are you trying to say you wouldn't talk to them? You wouldn't correct them? Would you sincerely just "let them be"?
If it's acceptable for someone to lie, and for no good reason at that, online to people they don't know, is it also acceptable to lie to people you meet on the street? Is it fine to fabricate birth announcements in the newspapers? Is it fine to tell the woman at the bus stop in the next town over that one has 4 kids waiting at home named Ophelia, Genevieve, Austen, and Cordelia? Oh and they're all homeschooled.
Or that they themselves are a triplet?
In my opinion, definitely not.
What gets to me, is that there are many other options besides lying which is what they're doing, and spinning tales.
They can create a family sure! Go ahead, make and entire ideal future family, but state so in your signature. Post hypothetical situations in momberries for "research" or purely interests purposes, but don't lie.
Are we not above lying on an online forum? We're all members of an odd passion; names. I highly doubt we'd be judging someone with a more common passion; parenting.
(I honestly don't even know if I used the ; properly...I was never actually taught how to use it.)
Lying on a name forum can easily turn into fabricating a whole life on a social network, or a more user interactive forum and that can lead to fabricating and lying in real life. (in my eyes.)
If one honestly thinks it's acceptable for people to lie in the ways I've listed above, then sincerely you need to sort out your priorities.
You can use a semi colon to join two complete sentences into a single sentence providing that those sentences are related. For example:
Originally Posted by east93
'I stroked the velvet; the fabric was soft under my fingers.'
To find out if you've used one right simply exchange the semi colon for a full stop and see if each part still makes sense as a complete sentence.
In your case I think I would have used a : instead as 'parenting.' couldn't be a sentence in its own right :) I think I have a tendency to over use semicolons, lol.
I concur ;-)
Originally Posted by renrose
She could've also used a hyphen.
Thank you for this post Blade. I am SO sick of the fakers on this forum. What makes me especially sick is when they create huge dramas like "I'm pregnant with triplets... oh no wait one of them died..". It's disgusting and ruins the integrity of the entire forum. As soon as someone says they're expecting twins I give them a major side-eye and mostly won't even comment in their thread because they're probably fake.
I've got the opposite problem: my biggest worry is that someone I know will read one of my posts and figure out who I am! I've never been tempted to make up a fake identity on a online forum, but I will confess I *did* used to cheat at the board game The Game of Life and put extra babies in my car.
We have our first scan on Monday, and will find out how many babies we've got in there (having transferred two embryos during IVF). So, in my case, any potential twin naming dilemma will be real. However, I realise that will be the least of my problems.
Amen to east93's post! My thoughts exactly. If it's not okay in real life, it shouldn't be okay here. Thinking it is just feeds the worrisome view that the internet is free from all responsibility and basic humanity.
... and just then did she realize how badly she sucks at maths... (speaking about myself)
Originally Posted by raptreverie
This is a fun and enjoyable read!
No, my spelling is not perfect but it's relevent enough so that you know what I'm saying. Next time, I'll use spell check. Thanks for the suggestion, blade!! :-)
I don't see the point in lying. I try preface my post with something along the lines of "not pregnant or trying to be for a few years" and I always get plenty of help, and my input isn't shot down in other posts because I'm not pregnant. I think this forum is great for all people in different phases in life; why lie?