For me, having a kid in my early 20's would've been disastrous. I would've been a horrific mum. I'm so glad I waited until I was 30, and I could very well have waited a few years more, which was the plan. I needed to grow up, mature and see the errors of my ways, gain some insight and see the world in all the shades you do when you grow up.
Turning 29 in 2 weeks. One day after my SO turns 34.
I had Rowan at 27. And Teagan is coming in May. Pretty positive we're done after this. We have a lot of travel plans over the coming years and any more kids will definitely put a damper on some of that.
I never put a timeline on myself for kids/marriage etc. Though I told myself if I didn't have any by the time I was 40, I wouldn't ever.
I had more grandiose plans for travelling the world than children. So hopefully I can still have the best of both worlds.
I think whenever you feel emotionally prepared for a child is the right time to have one. If you're 20, great. If you don't feel ready until 40, great. Kids need loving and happy parents. I'm from the South, and you wouldn't believe how many times I see parents being mean to their toddlers, yelling at them, pawning them off on their family and friends... why? Because they were 18 or 19 years old when they had a baby and they weren't prepared for it. So it makes the parent direct their anger and frustration onto the child. I would much rather someone wait until they are mentally and emotionally prepared for a baby before having one.
There are downsides of being an older parent too though. My mom was 37 when she had me, and she was in some cases 10-15 years older than all my friend's parents. She is 63 now and not in the best of health (mostly due to cigarette smoking) and it makes me sad sometimes that she can't be as active of a grandparent that she should be. My husband is 10 years older than me, and his mom is only 55 (she had him at 20.) So, I like being a younger parent. I will only be 44 when Rowan is 20, so I will still be young enough to enough life and travel when my kids are adults. I will be a younger grandparent so I can be active with my grandkids, unless my kids wait until they're 40 to have kids, haha!
I am 24 and have a two year old daughter.
First of all, happy birthday to @emmaboemma. I've never directly "talked" with you in the forums, but I've always loved reading your impressions of names. Very poetic and thoughtful.
I disagree with the assumption that a 45-year old can't "get" a preteen. Imagination, empathy, self-awareness, sensitivity, and humility are the things that help us to "get" our children and they are not age-dependent--in my experience, anyway, these things are the more plentiful with age.
I married at 31 and we had our first and only when I was in my mid-thirties. She's seven now (so yeah, I probably get the prize for the oldest on this particular thread so far) and I plan always to do my painstaking best to "get" her.
Oh, and @renrose, I also felt that way for a long time. I remember feeling, at times, that there were no surprises left for me, but I can assure you that 26 is pretty darn young!
I'm young, so I hope it's okay to post here! I'm 13, turning 14 in July!
Like a lot of the women on here, I'd like to have kids when I turn 27 or 28. If it makes any sense, I'd love to live and travel before I settle down and have kids. Get to know the man I wan to have them with, get to see if we'd actually be a good match for raising human beings. But who knows what the universe plans for me, I might end up 32 with no kids and no husband, but I'll definitely have traveled and enjoyed the world.
In a perfect world I would be married by 22, start having kids at 26/27 and end around 35 ish. I would definitely like to have four kids, two boys, two girls but if I could mentally and physically afford it, I'd like 6 or 7 (Yes, I know, a big number and it's probably just the teenager in me talking lol) Which is why I want to travel first, so that I can get all that fun in when I'm still young, and then focus on raising my babies, and being able to have as many as I want, since the career I hope to go into is very flexible in that regard.
I am turning 24 in a few months, and Andrew just turned 28, no kids for us yet!
With any luck, pending home ownership, the wedding and jobs,we should be officially trying to conceive in two years. I want to graduate from my program, and have enough work hours banked to get Maternity leave before we have a baby. I have crazy baby fever though, so it's very very tough to wait another two years! I also really want us to be married first, we have been engaged for well over a year now!