ONE person to do it, let alone a family with kids.
ONE person to do it, let alone a family with kids.
it's also SO much more fun in your twenties. When you're older you're more fussy and more conservative (speaking from experience here-- I'm so much more impatient and tired and particular now than I was 10-15 years ago). No hostels, no meeting "chill dudes from Iceland" and deciding on a whim to go to Slovakia together, etc.
I think travel (national or international) is valuable at any age. I lived in Germany for 3 years when I was a little girl (and we did a fair amount of traveling), and as a result, I was always interested in languages and world literature etc.. In college, I studied for a short time in England and saw as much as I could and once again, travel changed me for the better (we lived all over stateside and have tried to see a lot here as well). My husband and I intend to travel with our son and any other kids we have because I believe it is good for us and them to see more of the world if we can -even if it means a more modest home so we can afford/save for family trips (and I am not talking about huge yearly trips, although that would be amazing). I don't think there is one right order for things but just to know yourself. For me, I know travel is a priority for my husband too so I know it is a big priority for our family, kids or no, and we will make it happen. I honestly love seeing the world through my little boy's eyes (yes, I am a sappy-sap sentimental person) and can't wait to share things and discover things with him. :)
I'm 22, husband is 25, our only kids are our 2 cats. Hopefully adding a puppy! I don't think I'll be wanting kids for a long time, probably not till I'm closer to 30. We plan on only having 1, if any at all. I want to travel the world first and then we'll see what happens.
To answer the question as to why not travel with kids, my reasons are:
- kids easily bored on plane/car
- activities have to focus around kids or they get bored (most museums, scenic gardens, historic landmarks, etc... would bore children)
- no alone time with partner, thus losing the romance of the trip
- kids tire, go to bed early, easily worn out - no staying out late, enjoying the night life, missing things due to time constraint
- really expensive = more food, plane tickets, etc.
Sure I traveled with my parents when I was little, went to Taiwan 3 times and Canada. I don't even remember the trips, mainly because I was too young, so what's the point in taking a kid to see the world when in long run, they won't remember it? (I remember my 4th trip to Taiwan because it was 2 years ago. First time I was able to actually enjoy the experience.)
If I ever travel with my future child, it would most likely be once they are in college, an adult.
Now the above doesn't apply to kid focused trips, like Disney World, Disneyland, Universal Studios.... etc... those I would love to bring a kid on because well it's for kids! But I wouldn't want to bring one to London or Venice.
Sydney 3 times, Queensland 2 times, Bali and I'm going to Kuala Lumpur, singapore and maybe somewhere else. I first travelled as a baby I don't remember that but these holidays were amazing. By the time they are eight they can see those things, my brother was 6 when we went to Bali and we visited temples and he was fine. I remember all my trips over the age of 5. It is easy to find things to do while on planes colouring in, puzzles and many planes have in flight entertainment. My parents still have trips with just them but they still enjoy the theme parks and scenic things as do we at age 14, 11 and 9. My siblings and I are happy to stay up until 10 or so but in places like Bali the night life is terrible.
I would NEVER travel internationally or vacation with a child under 4. Rowan is a very well behaved and happy kid but if you keep her up past bedtime, make her wait an extra 30 minutes for dinner, make her skip a nap... she turns into a demon. It's fun to family vacation with older kids who can do more, don't *need* a nap, understand more, and actually remember the trip. I went to the beach, Washington DC, Maine, California, and Colorado under age 3 and I don't remember any of it. But I have very fond memories of our vacations when I was 5+.
Traveling internationally is extremely expensive, I was lucky I got the chance to experience the traveling I did when I was 17-20.
BUT I think everyone's different. I know lots of good mum's (including my own) who had children in their early twenties. I think it's good that we're different. And I really admire young mothers, I would've had no idea what to do with a baby when I was 20.
But I don't think the fact that "Susie went to England" means we should take our kid to China. That's just childish.
All in all, it was just my opinion and reasoning as to why I'd rather travel without kids, just answering someones question. I'm not saying "don't travel with kids" it's just my preference not to.
Like I said my parents traveled with us when we were little, but based on that experience, I never want to. We were terrible children, all we wanted to eat was McDonald's because the food was "gross." My little sister hated museums with a passion so she'd often whine and complain. However, that was their choice and in all fairness to them, all our Taiwan trips are family trips (my mom's from there, so she has family there), which is probably the only reason they brought us along in the first place.
The 4th trip, however, was just me and my mom. I was 20 and wanted to try new foods and see things. We had a lot more fun than we did when we were little. I definitely think it's worth waiting to travel with your kid when their older because you enjoy it more. You don't have to worry about a "fussy" kid.