Amity, Artemis, Amaryllis..? Back to the drawing board and need HELP please!
I've posted twice or thrice before - of most relevance when it looked like my husband and I were choosing between Xanthe and Artemis (he chucked my Xanthe out and I came round(ish) to Artemis) and once when we thought we'd decided on Pearl. The Nameberry community has been incredibly helpful so I thought I'd turn to you again if you're not tiring of me too much.
We are now completely and utterly stuck with no out-and-out favourite at all, no names we both unreservedly love and I have 10 weeks left... So I'd appreciate some blue-sky thinking and honest opinions from you.
What are your favourite names within these rough boundaries?
1) I suspect we tend to both like Ancient Greek and Roman names, vintage names and Pilgrim names (this last is a real rarity in England where we are from). Certainly names with history. I do worry some vintage names are getting overly popular (see below)
2) As parents we both have unusual names and would like our second daughter to have a name which ideally means she just has to say "Hi, it's Xanthe" (or whatever) safe in the knowledge that she's probably the only Xanthe the other person knows. Definitely want to avoid names which are moving up rapidly so that there could be multiples in a school year.
3) Our last name is Irwin and to my ear this has caused problems with some vowel endings (a endings in particular which rules out a veritable host of names) and some rhyme problems (this last is one of the reasons we rejected Pearl - Pearl Irwin had a bit of a difficult 'err' roll to it).
4) I'd prefer either one/two syllables (though have drawn much of a blank finding ones we both like) or if more that the nickname potential is good or at least not too hideous. Or indeed the same as a million other children - e.g. While I love Amaryllis I think the potential nicknames - Lily or Amy - are going to point to less unusual names.
Also of note - our eldest daughter is Iris (chosen for its Greek history, rainbow and flower associations, vintage associations, two syllables and it sounds strong somehow).
And for those worried about possibly pretentious names leading to bullying this child will probably (I'm trying to afford it as hard as can be!) be educated privately. In England this means her school year will have more Aramintas, Persephones and Agathas than you'd expect.
These are the names we can roughly agree we both like but not unreservedly:
Amaryllis - Love the sparkling meaning, the pastoral history, the unusualness. Don't love the length and possible nicknames.
Clemency - Like rather than love from us both for sound and meaning. Works but doesn't inspire a lot of reaction from either of us.
Amity - Like. Possibly not as pretty a sound as Clemency. Very unusual in England.
Clementine - Love this. Not loving how popular it is getting. Not loving "Clemmie" (clammy) as a nickname. Ditto re nickname for Clemency.
Pearl - Love the image and the vintage feel. Not loving the 'earl' sound problem above. Could this name be ugly depending on pronunciation?
Artemis - This was our frontrunner despite a worry it might be a tad pretentious! Love its fierce goddess associations and strength. Unseated by the nickname issue (we agreed on Mimi though it's a long way away from Artemis) and the possessive "Artemis's" - sounds a bit too hissy and would be used a lot presumably? Also applies to Amaryllis.
Ivy - not good with Iris. Not as good a name as Iris either (imo).
Am I just being way too picky? I think the problem is I don't LOVE any of them any more. Not in the way I loved my first daughter's name, Iris.
ps I also LOVE Delilah (a cousin's name. Could get away with it, just but there's that 'a' ending) and we'd have called her Violet but it's her first cousin's name and it would have started an all out war! He was all for Lark but it feels a bit too cool for us tbh and lacks that history I really wanted.
(ps I'd go for Xanthe in a heartbeat. He won't.)