I have a good friend whose daughter is named Adelaide. They made it clear from the get go that they did NOT like the nickname Addie---so she's three years old now and still Adelaide--no nickname. If you make it clear to family that you want her called Adelaide--it will stick eventually. good luck!
There are so many gorgeous names on these lists! Thank you all for your speedy replies.
I never realized how important choosing a name was. You want a name that says to the world, "This is my child. I love her, she is special, she will do great things." That's a lot of pressure for one little word.
Classic, short, well-known but not popular is totally our style. Some gems from your lists:
Rose (my husband is having a hard time shaking the Roseanne Barr conotations)
Jane (my personal fave!)
Elodie (our family has just welcomed an Elia, an Ella, and an Elora, so we might be on El overkill...)
My husband isn't sold on anything yet, but hopefully that will change in a couple of weeks!
My dh says: Mira the miracle baby!
Other ideas (I think shorter names will get you to your goal of no nicknames):