Originally Posted by namefan
What you say makes sense for the average citizen. I think it stands to reason, though, that they'll be wanting to verify his high school (or equivalent) records, birth certificate, etc, which will be under a different name. If he chooses to simply Anglicize his name, no one will be asking questions about why, as the answer will be obvious. I agree wholeheartedly that questions about why can be a slippery slope, but we all know they'll be asking themselves if not actually asking out loud. I'd argue that unasked questions turned to assumptions (particularly if he were to make a selection like Vandal) could potentially be more damaging to his career than the employer just asking some clarifying questions. And then there is Blade's point about the merciless razzing he'll receive from his peers - no stopping that unless you're willing to sue everyone you come across in your career.
Lieutenant, given your age, the names you came up with make a ton of sense. Coming here for advice was a good move - the people here generally have diverse and and somewhat daring taste in names. Also, most of us are only 10-15 years removed from college (or less), and it's amazing the perspective that a small amount of time and life experience can give you. For what it's worth, I'd go to a doctor with an unpronounceable foreign name without a second thought, whereas it'd take some interesting circumstances to make me see someone with a name like Vandal ;)
@blade: I did mention that it probably won't be applicable in the OP's case (due to his profession). I made my post to let tk. know that for employment in general the only former or other names they're supposed to inquire about are whatever is needed to verify their background and credentials (and you don't need to reveal "extraneous" names such as your name prior to a childhood adoption, pseudonyms used for lawful purposes unrelated to your job, etc.). I do know that there are many exceptions to the general rule (e.g. medical licenses, security clearances), but for any others reading this thread I thought I'd clarify what was said. (The reason I know the details is because of a transgender friend I once had, and for "typical" jobs whether or not you need to disclose your former identity is whether or not all the relevant documents appear under your current name.)
Very well said.
Originally Posted by blade
@tk.: In some cases even the records you mentioned (birth certificate, school) can be updated, depending on the state's/institution's policy (in some cases they'd fully change it, in other cases add the new name as an "AKA"). As some of us may know this happens frequently to someone's birth certificate when adopted, and can sometimes be done for other (non-marriage-related) name changes as well. Once again thanks to the insight from the transsexual I knew, here's a (broken intentionally) link made for that community on how it can be done in the U.S. and Canada: drbecky (dot) com/birthcert.html
I can't find any information on how it would apply at a typical high school, but below is a university that will change the name on record of a student who has graduated (from a quick search it appears that some institutions will change a graduate's name while others won't):
nyu (dot) edu/registrar/forms-procedures/name-change.html
ETA: Once again, the facts I'm presenting are not intended to convince the OP that he should change his name; rather, I'm clarifying what others have said in this regard.
I do agree with previous posters that changing your name drastically can have a lot of legal ramifications.
You mention that your family members all have different surnames. Do you come from a tradition that uses patronymics, i.e. the surname is based on your father's name and so the family name changes with each generation? These sorts of names often aren't transcribed properly in Western countries. I have a friend from South India whose "first" name is his father's name and his "last name" is his name, and it gets difficult to explain over and over. In that case, you and your immediate family may want to agree on a particular surname that you will all use.
Hi I am an Aussie too, so I am a bit unsure where the 'bad ass' word comes from as this is not an Aussie expression.
Why not go with something strong, masculine, on trend but not trendy and with an easy to understand surname. I would totally anglicise the full three names eg Alexander Benjamin Taylor ie Dr Taylor.
If you don't like your name now why would you like it more at 60? People come to a new country all the time and anglicise their names. There are many, many people who change their names to fit in more with the society in which they live. You can always be pround of your heritage without carrying the baggage of a difficult name everywhere. I also think that there is a bit of inequality here too because a woman can discard her maiden name when she gets married and that is okay but for a guy it isn't! That doesn't make any sense at all, because a woman can feel just as strongly towards her family without the original moniker, so let this man go ahead and change his future for the better without the baggage of his difficult name.
I think Max full name Maxwell would be a good name, with Oliver as a middle Dr Maxwell Oliver Jackson nn Max.
Elliott Marcus Monroe nn Eli ie Dr Eli Monroe
Malachi Anthony Jackson nn Kai or Dr Kai Jackson
Abraham Joseph Grant nn Bram ie Dr Bram Grant
Alexander Blaise Emerson, nn Alex ie Dr A Emerson
Julian George Cooper nn Jules Dr Jules Cooper
Indigo Fletcher Sebastian[/name] nn Indy Dr Indy Sebastian
Maximus Jacob Bennett nn Max ie Dr Max Bennett
Blake Elliott Harrison nn Blake ie Dr Blake Harrison
Do any of these suggestions work for you?
PS People take the pressure off this guy to conform to your standards and let him go ahead and find a name that he really likes and wants to use for the rest of his life and he has definitely said he wants to exchange his long name for a usable Aussie style name.
What a shame that we're so homogenized that you feel pressure to change your name. Can you give us a clue about your ethnicity? Perhaps there's a more streamlined version of your current name that would retain some cultural tie?
Say your name is
Bhattacharya, an Indian name meaning "illustrious teacher."
You could shorten it to Charya. Still quite nice. Or another close Indian name...
Baid (beautiful, simple, easy to pronounce)
Anglicizations (if you must)
My doctor's name is Iraj Akhavan. I never know where to put the h. He's Iranian. Savvy, funny guy, incredibly busy practice. I don't know how I'd feel if he decided to change his name to say.. Irving Anderson. Like conspicuous nosejobs, I don't think Anglicizations inspire trust. I just call him Doc anyway.
Originally Posted by emmabobemma
I really appreciate your advice and concerns regarding the future repercussions of drastically changing my name but I am happy with it so is my family.
I really do not want to change it a name that is a derivative of my current name because I am going to a different state and I am going to start a new life where my name will not matter and I will not ever use it again.
@Blade: I have not had any first hand experience with this but I believe that it is very very common for people to change their names in Australia and it is very understandable.
It is not 'very very common' for people to change their surnames in Australia. I am not sure where you're getting that from?
I work with recent immigrants - a lot of them, on a regular basis. Australia has an extremely diverse racial mix. There are people with all sorts of surnames, in all sorts of professions.
That said, if your name really is so difficult to spell and pronounce, and you're not at all attached to it, then I agree that you might as well change it. But please, if you want to be a doctor, don't change it to something hyper-cartoonish-masculine. I agree with other posters that that will not serve you well.
I thought that was very strange too, Jeska. Are you actually from Australia, OP? It is definitely not 'very very common' for people to change their surnames (except for the standard brides changing to their new husband's surname).
Originally Posted by jeska