I love the name Evelyn and know two precious three year old girls with the name. It doesn't seem fusty or too old fashioned on them at all. (By the way, they each have a sister, one of whom is named Audrey and one who is named Charlotte. I think those names are both good alternatives.) However, Evelyn is quite popular, which it sounds like you may be trying to avoid. Also, I don't think Evelyn fits that well with your sibset, but having the perfect sibset is not the end all be all. At the end of the day, I'd go with the name you love.
By the way, I love Iris. Eve is another way to get to the nickname Evie if you want to go that route. I also personally wouldn't want to name my child something that my mother and/or stepfather were trying to force me to choose, no matter how they framed it. Your mother already have her chance to name her children. You and your husband, not your mother or stepfather, get to name this baby, regardless of what your mother says. Also, if your stepfather really does tell the baby that she should have been named Evelyn multiple times, his personality is probably such that the baby won't be his biggest fan anyway. Good luck!
I think it is normal to have cold feet about the name in the final weeks. You spend so much time and energy thinking about the name for this little person you haven't met yet.....and when you meet them, you begin to love the name more than ever because it belongs to your precious little bean. Also, your uncertainty is naturally removed because, well, you've made your final decision.
Unless you've fundamentally changed on Evelyn, I'd stay with it. It's so beautiful and classic and goes really nicely with the rest of your kids' names. Perhaps reconsider the middle name to include elements that your husband loves. He seems to like M names, have you considered:
Either way, try not to make yourself nuts overthinking it. If you love Evelyn, and your husband agreed to it, stay with it. If you're lukewarm on Iris, consider throwing your husband a bone....the guilt over "winning" on Evelyn might be part of what is causing your uncertainty. Or it could just be hormones :D
Ooooh geez. Brutal honesty here...........I think your family knows how to manipulate you and they clearly are. You are having doubts about the whole process and how you got there and the fact you're also worried about your step dad goes to show that IMO. I'd probably take Evelyn off the table just because of all that. Just based on your stuble undertones (and having a horribly manipulating MIL so I know these games way too well) I think they'd have a bit too much power if you went with the name. Maybe I'm reading way too into the whole thing but I agree with the poster that it was totally inappropriate--legitimate abilities are not--to basically name your child for you. Seriously bad taste in the mouth.
And I should probably preface with this (maybe to explain my strong reaction to your story). My husband comes from a culture that believes in that sort of thing. My MIL still has a friend in the motherland who also claims herself psychic. MIL and FIL are divorced. MIL has tried on many occasions to make sure statements to my husband such as "X tells me that you love your father more than me. How could you after what a rotten person he is?!" I've seen a sort of similar manipulation with this "type" of person on a few other occasions. Maybe it's wrong to judge a stranger's family based largely on my own experiences, but I am a naturally suspicious person....what can I say.
Evelyn is okay. I do think Evie is cute but honestly I'd prefer Eve or Eva. I think it's a bit out of place with Riley and Piper. If I understand you correctly before Christmas you and your husband hadn't talked much about baby names and you haven't talked much about it afterwards either. That would give me cold feet as well.
While it might not be possible for both of you to love the same name, I think I'd feel uncomfortable using a name that your dh clearly had vetoed earlier. When naming my last baby I was pushing hard for Henry and dh gave in to me using it but it just didn't make a great choice for us because he clearly didn't even like the name.
Maybe this is an opportunity to really put on your boots and stand up to your mother and stepfather. You're having another child, and with that you can come into yourself in a different way. You don't have to be confrontational with them, but you also don't have to wilt when they're disrespectful toward you and your family. Naming your child can be a chance for you and your husband to come together and create something that you both feel good about. Your daughter won't second-guess her name or believe that she should have been Evelyn, if you give her what your mother hasn't exactly given you - clear boundaries and a firm but kind lead that assures her that you're trustworthy, that you're the parent.
Originally Posted by courtney86
I posted before that I love Evelyn Iris. Still would go with that, but wanted to share a story about my friend. Her pushy mother in law told her that she and her son(baby's father) had decided the baby should be named Elizabeth. So my friend told her that when she and her son had a baby together they could name it Elizabeth. You and husband are the ONLY people that have a say in naming this child. No one was crazy about my kid's names at first either. They would suggest all sorts of names to try to sway our opinion. This is manipulation. Now everyone loves their names. Just tell them that they already named their kids and now it is your turn.
Honestly, I don't think Evelyn goes with her siblings. I think your style is quite masculine so throwing a feminine, girly name into the sibset is a bit odd one out. I think you should give a masculine/unisex fn and a feminine mn.
Harlow Elizabeth (I really like the flow of this name)
Rowan Evelyn (If you really love Evelyn use as a mn)
I agree with bluesuedeshoes-- I don't really think Evelyn fits in with the style of your other children's names and I think she has a lot of good suggestions that fit better with your sibset. What about Eden Iris? I think it fitst much better with Riley, Jackson, and Piper. Some other suggestions: Avery, Paige, Blythe, Sydney/Sidonie, Taylor, Davis, Brooke, Sage, Morgan, Shelby, Merit, Maia.
Thanks for some of the suggestions. I like Quinn but prefer it in the middle position, Rory is actually a pet fave of mine. I do actually like Harlow but feel it's a bit close to Harlot. Peyton, Rowan and Ryan I'm not fussed on.
davisellu - I do like Eden, and Arden but both I find are a little clunky with our last name W aldron... not sure if that's deal breaker or not.
I do like Blythe and Sage but prefer them in middles for some reason. The others are unusable for various reasons. I'm starting to warm up to my husbands like of Alexis a little. I've always found it a bit harsh for a girl but I would probably just call her Lexi.