Already replied but thought I'd add on: I loved being an only. I had friends from school of course, but otherwise, I was just very good at entertaining myself. I think only children tend to function as "little adults" for lack of a better word in the family much sooner because there's not a kids table or kids vs adults dynamic as someone else mentioned, I was more comfortable chatting with adults from an early age than many of my friends who had siblings.
Honestly the only "con" has come later, there are times as my parents get older, and I'm sure there will only be more down the road, when it would be nice to have a sibling to talk with and, especially being several hours away, share responsibilities there.
I am an only child :-). I always had a very active and vivid imagination growing up, especially growing up in the country. A lot of people don't believe that I'm an only child either. I got a lot of the things I wanted, but I had to earn them!
I am very much considering having only one child, and am fascinated by this. I am one of 6 kids and my sisters are my best friends, so I almost feel selfish for "doing this" to my daughter.
I do wonder about what it will be like at holidays and on family vacations for her, etc... were you every lonely not having other kids to play with?? Do you worry you'll be the only one bearing the responsibility of caring for your aging parents?
Another view is how lonely my husband or I would be if one of us were to die and we only had one kid. And what if she never got married or had kids of her own? Then we'd never have grandkids either...
So much to consider!!
I'm an only child. It has its ups and downs.
Can you be more specific?
As I mentioned in my above post, I do worry about both me and my husband being the ones responsible for our parents as they get older, but we'll make it work. I've just as often seen friends with siblings get stuck as the only one willing to help or ending up in messy disagreements over care. At least as an only I know it will be my responsibility and I'll do the best I can, you know?
I guess there's always a chance you won't have grandchildren, or won't have good relationships with your kids, that could happen with two kids too unfortunately. I don't think I'd let that be the sole reason not to have an only.
That is a lot to consider...hope something in that was helpful.
I am the oldest of 4, but 2 of my best friends are only children.
It is interesting that one grew up longing for a ton of siblings and the other thoroughly enjoyed being an only.
I'm not. I have 3 siblings! But I'm married to an only!