@mckaylalove he is a huge comic fan and that's exactly why he likes those names... Which is why I suggested Parker (Spiderman's civilian last name) And he hated it, and said "Only if its Peter Parker". I don't like the name peter, and I'm all about humoring the whole comic book thing, but I draw a line. He wants "Bruce Wayne Roy. Clark Kent Roy. Peter Parker Roy. Luke Skywalker Roy" and I just won't to it to my poor child! And any suggestion I make he just seems to hate. I'm almost in tears sometimes he's so annoying with it. I don't know what to do. Everything is either "too classic, too unique" or "not a name". I'm so lost. I hope I can find a name we both love, and soon!
No offense taken, to know I'm not crazy and you understand makes me feel a lot better!!
Every time I talk to him about it, he tells me that he just genuinely likes the names Bruce and Clark. Which, knowing him, I actually believe. There is just no common ground for us and boys names. We have dozens girls names that we absolutely love, but we can't agree on a single boys name. It's very frustrating. I try to appease him by looking up marvel or dc characters, try to find out their names and I suggest the ones that I like to him. But then it goes back to "I don't like Parker on it's own, it would have to be Peter Parker" We literally have a list of "Meh" names. But like I said in my first post, I want to love my childs name! I want the child to be able to go through his or her entire life with a good solid name that suits them.
These are our "Meh" Boys names, but I'm also pretty weird and have reasons to why I can't commit to LOVING it. But these are literally the only names he hasn't said "No" to.
Benjamin (Could love this, but the song "Ben" makes me hesitate)
Maxwell (Because Jessica Simpson named her daughter Maxwell)
Jack (Because of people saying "Off" after it)
Charles (Because I love the nn. Charlie, but it's becoming a feminine nn. as well)
and then there's Thomas Joseph(nn. TJ) after our fathers. But his parent's are divorced, and we're very close with his mother, and when we told her we were thinking about it, she was nearly in tears because of us possibly naming our first born after her ex.
There are decent comics names. Besides Bruce Wayne and Clark Kent-- which everyone and their mother immediately know are comics names-- how about:
Arthur Joseph Curry (aquaman)
Anthony Stark ( iron man)
Benjamin Grimm ( the Thing)
Edward Nygma (the Riddler)
Henry Philip McCoy (Beast)
Charles Xavier (X-men)
Jay Garrick (the Flash)
Jim Hammond (the Torch)
Logan Howlett (Wolverine)
Reed Rchards ( Mr Fantastic)
Robert Bruce Banner (Hulk)
Scott Summers (Cyclops)
Steve Rogers (Captain America)
How about the names of the actors who have played Clark Kent?
Or the names of actors who have played Bruce Wayne?
**Maybe some of their first or last names may be of interest to you or your husband.
There is also a practical argument against naming a child Luke Skywalker Roy or Peter Parker Roy. Yes, it might be awesome for 2-3 years while your son is in grade school, but at some point he may want to attract a girlfriend or a job. And those names WILL work against him. It's pigeonholing your son into a very rigid box. A name should not only reflect a child's background, but also continue to bless him throughout his life.
Are you currently pregnant/is this your first child? It seems to me that a lot of men don't really get serious about names until there is a "bun in the oven," so to speak. So maybe his somewhat childish approach to naming is due to the fact that he is slightly apprehensive about the whole Becoming A Parent thing in general? The fact that your husband is actually being rather contradictory--many of the names he prefers are surnames--makes me think that he is not currently being very serious about naming...which is actually OK if there's not a pressing need for a name THIS SECOND, as long as he gets more serious when there is an actual child needing a name.
I see your frustration here. You have to laugh. Your husband is such a man. Tell him he has to compromise and that you don't want your son to have such an obvious super hero name. This will cause embarassment and teasing later. You sound like you are being completely reasonable. He needs to do the same.