@megmarie that is so exciting! A million congratulations. I forgot, how long had you been trying?
@alzora WONDERFUL. That is how it should be done. 614.6 in the house!!! Out of curiosity, did you discuss having a vaginal childbirth? Did she think the repair could hold and it would be possible to try?
So when is the HSG scheduled!!!!
Thanks Blade!!! :)
We had been trying since October 2012 but on Clomid since January of this year. Not long at all! I have known about my PCOS issues for 10 years and knew that once we started trying that I was going to be proactive in my approach. With only 3 or so natural periods a year, I wasn't going to sit around and bet on that working.
Really happy for you Megmarie!!!! Gives me hope too since I'm starting to go through all this PCOS crap....
@alzora, wooo hoooo! I'm so glad you found a way to bypass the stupid system and that you're getting your test! Also great that your doc was so encouraging!
Yay megmarie!! That is so exciting! :-)
@ alzora- Yay! Finally someone is working with you instead of against you. Keep us updated on your test! I'm sure they'll use the billing code the doctor gave them. I really hope you don't have any more TIB runaround. I'm going through some more of that right now, though most of it isn't pregnancy related. DH had a procedure that they told us was going to be $140, then we got a bill for $360. We called and asked why, and they said, "Oh, they just gave you an estimate assuming that you had already met your deductible." Our deductible is $5000 and this was done in March. What on earth made them think we would have met that amount yet?! Blah. I hate billing! And trying to get a straight answer is an exercise in futility. So it isn't just you that has these issues :-) It is so annoying. Sounds like you are on the right track now! And it is so nice to have a doctor you like and trust, too. I hope your HSG goes great!
Congrats to the newly pregnant berries! Very exciting!!
Alzora, I'm so glad you finally have a real appointment for your HSG! I hope yours goes better than mine ... but anything shy of two messed up tubes will be good news (; So one last stab at TIB, did you know there's an iPhone app just for medical billing that has all those fantastic codes at your fingertips? I think she needs an iTunes gift card, oh never mind it's free. Okay that's all.
To the ladies dealing with PCOS, I feel for you. What I love about this thread is that no one has yet used the term cycle cysters. Please let's keep it that way! I saw that on another forum and just about died.
So I know you're all really excited to know what's going on in my life, maybe/maybe not. I finally told my mother about what happened with the HSG, And as you may remember she's been underwhelmingly unsupportive to say the least. I told her, and she was actually considerate and thoughtful And wonderful. She asked "well can't they just suck out your eggs and then join them with some sperm and then put them back in you?" ... Yes mommy, it's called IVF. She couldn't believe that it wasn't covered on insurance since it's obviously medically necessary. Just to make sure, she called her own Catholic employer to see if it was covered under their plan. That didn't get very far.
My husband and I were in San Francisco this weekend, and we finally got to talking about how we're going to proceed. Right now we actually have enough savings to go through with IVF as long as we finance that drug portion. However, we have the savings because we've been saving to do home renovations. There's a very real possibility that if we do the IVF, and it fails, we'd have no money left over to fix our ugly house as we intended. In that case we'd have no baby and no home reno. I should post a photo of our bathroom, or the hole in the wall of our living room, just so you know how dire it really is. We decided we're going to put off IVF for a least another 12 to 18 months to go forward with the original plans of renovating our house. My husband has an appointment to talk with his recruiter about getting placed at Amzn later this year. Obviously if that works out we could go forward a lot faster. We're trying to save in every way we can. We're refinancing the house so that will save about $300 a month, and the car will be paid off in another year or so and that will save another $200 a month. I'm trying to pick up extra shifts at work too just so I can rake in the money. It's really really hard to save 16-40k, jeeze!
I have my ultrasound with the doctor to examine my ovaries and make sure all that stuff is working coming up in about two weeks. I remember the HSG showed that one side had the hydrosalpinx, but the other side was just blocked. I'm hoping that it was blocked proximally to the uterus, and that the rest of the tube is fine. In that case, hopefully they could just do a surgery to reopen the tube so that conception could occur "natural." I'll have to ask my doctor about it at the next appointment to see if things like that are even possible. I know for sure I'll have to have surgery to remove the tube with the hydrosalpinx since the mucky water in the tube can inhibit embryo implantation (bad for IVF). We're also revisiting the option of adoption. I have an appointment coming up next month with an agency to review their adoption process. Since open adoptions seem to be the norm, and open adoptions make me extremely uncomfortable, I'm not sure if this will be a good option for us ... But it's worth looking into. It's also just as expensive as IVF, but at least you're mostly guaranteed a baby at the end of it, or if not a baby, at least a child. It's significantly cheaper to adopt from foster care, and I think foster care adoptions have to be closed so we are looking into that too. I guess we'll see what's going to happen in the next 12 months, but the process of starting a family is going to be much much slower now. I really wanted to have my first child before 30, but it's looking like that's not going to happen. It's extremely devastating if I actually stop to think about it, but I'm probably just not processing it completely and clinging on to tiny threads of hope that some kind of surgery will fix all this so that I can still conceive naturally.
If anyone has any tips on how to save money or how to live frugally, i'm all ears. We've done really well with cutting out all fast food, all Starbucks, all dining out, etc. But we need to save more and more. We kind of suck at couponing since there's never really coupons on chicken and vegetables, but it is definitely saves money to buy wine in bulk and we've been doing plenty of that (;
Cheers ladies! xPoppy
Poppy - I have looked into embryo adoption, so-called "snowflake babies." I don't know if it's right for you or not, and sorry if I'm being dense about your physical condition. Just throwing it out there as something to consider if possible? It is often significantly cheaper than traditional adoption. We are stopping at drugs - no IUI or IVF for us, for financial and other reasons - so embryo adoption will be our next step after Clomid, Femara, injectables, etc., if none of it works.
Megmarie - Good for you. I've had PCOS for so long, as soon as we started trying I got immediately proactive. If I waited the "sensible" year I would have roughly zero chances in that year since I probably wasn't ovulating. I'm so glad my doctor agreed with me and was aggressive. Way to go, you! This is my second cycle of Clomid and I hope we get our little miracle, too. :-)
Alzora - I forgot to add that there will be no deployment this year, it appears. :-) Yay! A great relief. Thanks for asking.
I just popped in to say that Mira Sorvino's retinue of younguns makes me really happy. She had her first child, Mattea, at 37, and her fourth, Lucia, last year at 44. Granted, at least one of her past-40 pregnancies (son Holden, born when she was 41) was a difficult one. I don't know about Lucia. But it makes me happy when I see other gals start late and still have big glorious families. I'll be 34 in August and I'd like to have more than one. Although right now just the thought of one seems like a choirs-of-angels-singing sort of event.
Okay what is embryo adoption and snowflake babies?! My husband brought that up last night too ... but I thought he was just being weird and making it up?? Doesn't the embryo still have to be implanted into you IVF-style?
@megmarie, jeeeehhh, congratulations, so how many tests did you take in the end? ;) your news and proactivity is very encouraging and inspiring
@alzora, bye bye TIB, hello baby(s)!
@poppy, wow that sounds like a lot to process and think about. If you need surgery either way that would be step 1, and maybe having a baby in a house that's falling apart might be stressfull too... but the only advice I can really give you is to take it easy on yourself and get all the info from your doctor so you know what options are realistic. Happy to hear your mom is being more supportive!
@ poppy- not sure about snowflake babies, but there is sometimes an option to "adopt" other couples' unused IVF embryos. Embryos can only be stored for so long, so couples have the option of allowing their embryos to be adopted, used for stem cell research, or destroyed. It would still have to be implanted, but should be cheaper than the full IVF procedure.
Thanks Nowakasia! I’m glad it gives you hope. I have hope in other great PCOS stories too!
Thanks Whit! Thanks Poppy!
Thanks Missusaytch! That is exactly how I feel about it and am VERY thankful my doctor let me be aggressive as well. She told me that, “Of course you will have a baby. You are young and healthy so we just need to get you ovulating!” It was wonderful to have someone qualified be that sure of the situation and hopeful. Good luck with your next round of Clomid! It’s a beyotch :) Fingers crossed!
Thanks Khaatje! I took three haha. One yesterday, two today.