alzora: Right now I'm expecting AF around Friday or Saturday. I don't have high hopes for this cycle, so I'm sure she's just biding her time and waiting to strike.
So far my husband and I haven't used preseed or anything like that yet. We just try ever other night and the only tracking I've done is with cervical mucus (boy, that was fun to learn about "I have to do what?"). Tuesday I have an appointment with my OBGYN and I'm super nervous. It's just a normal check up, but to be honest (and I know it's ridiculous) but this will be my first time EVER going, so I'm a bit stressed. I did see the book MrsH recommended and I plan on checking into it. I hope that Easter brings good news for both of us as well :)
megmarie: Ha! They really don't like talking about it, do they? I think I perpetually mortify my husband whenever I bring it up.
I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis, I have several aunts who either cannot have children (I have never been completely informed why) or have been diagnosed with Endometriosis, so I've been terrified to find out if it has been passed along. Hopefully it is a good sign that your mother had similar symptoms but was still able to conceive. I hope that you get good news soon! :)
I'm really not much help when it comes to advice on this subject, but I do think that poppy528 makes a great point. Men do enjoy morning sex and my doctor told me that their sperm count is higher in the morning as well, so it might be worth at try.
poppy528: I love my MIL too, she's the best! However, I'm would be in the same boat. My husband and I would get asked questions like that all the time and every time we would have to answer "no" it would be painful. It's enough of a disappointment in private, no need to broadcast it. Although, I'm about 99% sure that my mother knows (she always seems to know what's on mind) but she's really good about not prying.
I dont' tell my coworkers either (though they ask constantly) I just say "it will happen when it happens" and change the subject.
However, it really is hard not to share with people, its an exciting time and the thought of having a child makes me giddy :)
I like talking about TTC on this forum better than a TTC forum because we can always lighten the mood with some name talk. :-) It's so easy to obsess and stress and worry. I think the best thing we do to improve our chances is find ways to distract and absorb our minds with other things.
You always hear about people who decide to adopt and then get pregnant. That happened to my grandma. They tried for 16 years. Married at 19, and then at 35 they decided to adopt my mom, then got pregnant basically immdiately. They adopted my mom anyway of course, at birth, and six months later had my aunt. My mom and aunt enjoy telling people they are six months apart and watching people's faces. :-)
@megmarie, my husband is my biggest challenge each month during ovulation days. He's not doing it on purpose, and he is in very good health overall, but it seems that every month during those days he is either particularly tired from work (and I mean visibly exhausted), has a bad cold/flu, has injured his back (that's this month's problem, and was last month as well), etc. We have always been able to do it at least some of the days, but there are always a few days every month when I want to try and he just is unable to perform, as you said. He works as a therapist with troubled teenagers who are one step away from juvy hall or a psyche ward, and wouldn't you know, they turn into little hellions and beat up on my husband on the days when I need him to be in his best of shape. I have no advice for this; I want to scream. We should be trying tonight, but he can barely walk and has to see his doctor about his back tomorrow. So frustrating! I can relate to you.
Oh my gosh, @alzora, that is terrible! No wonder you are so stressed! It is such a critical time too. This topic kind of makes me want to cry. I'm glad your husband's is legitimate (no less frustrating though) My husband just gets in his own head and freaks himself out. And this is a very new issue. Performance isn't normally something I worry about with him lol.
I have to say that it is taking everything within myself to not show my frustration. Last month I did not hide it well but I am laughing it off the past couple of days and that is seeming to help. Fingers crossed for babies!!!
Hi all, I would love to join your thread as I have my fingers crossed that 2013 is my year! I have been ttc for my second (but my bf's first) for 18 months. I have a 15 year old son who I had when I was younger. It seems now that I am 36 I can no longer concieve! Both me and my partner have been fully tested and they can't find anything wrong other than i have slightly low progestrogen. I hang on to the hope that this means I should be able to concieve but as the months tick by I find myself doubting that its ever going to happen. I love reading other people's stories and follow forums because I have not told any family or friends I have been ttc. I am hoping this year I can give my son a much longed for brother or sister.
Hi, namenut! Wow, 18 months. :/ I'm sorry to hear it's such a frustrating process for you. If your doctors are saying that everything is healthy, I see no reason why you shouldn't keep hoping! I'm feeling pretty optimistic about 2013 for all of us. :) Keep us posted.
Welcome violetink1231 and namenut! I can't imagine how I would feel if I were still trying a year from now. It must be very discouraging. I am currently in my 2ww and very excited to test on the 14th if I can last that long.
I get it... the first time around, after 3 years of trying I started noticing that my husband planned to be out of town during the Ovualtion cycles if they were on weekends... or he'd promise to be home, and then magically have something come up. After months of this we had a "come to Jesus" meeting and I let it all go. He came around a few months later, and we conceived our son after Surgery for Endometriosis. (so I get the family problems too!)
Originally Posted by megmarie
This time around, we knew what we had to do... but it seemed like his busiest weeks at work (holidays, etc) every ovulation time. So he was exhausted. I know that we didn't "perform" as often as we should have. I tried scheduling every 36-48 hours... but sometimes we both were just so tired. Him from a physically demanding job with long hours, and me from my 8-5 job and our son.
Eventually it all worked out. But some times you just have to walk away until he's ready to pick up the ball. Good luck.
Thanks @poppy528, @violetink1231, and @grecianern for the advice!
@grecianern, what you said is very interesting! We had a little talk last month and I just assured him that I dont want to pressure him; if he is not ready then that means WE are not ready and that is more than ok. I was worried that he wanted it because I do but he talks about it as much if not more than me (in a good way.) He just keeps randomly telling me, "I want the babies" lol. It is cute.
I have tried not to talk about anything baby related with him because I think he over analyzes. The only bad thing is that he can tell when I don't feel well and since it is the Clomid that is making me feel sick, he knows and puts more pressure on himself.
It is this weird cycle that we can't get out of!!! :)
Well AF arrived this morning saying loud and clear I'm not pregnant this cycle. Oh dear me, sadness is here this morning but it should pass soon (hopefully) and here is to this next cycle... Praying for BFPs for us all ladies soon!