Thank you everyone for the kind words and condolences. I have been spending lots of time with my friend and her family. The funeral will be held tomorrow morning, and I hope that will bring some finality and acceptance. We are all sorting through lots of emotions- grief, sadness, anger- but are trying to support each other and find comfort in the company of loved ones. It has been a very tough week here, but I know we will all come through this as stronger, better people.
@dindlee - I suppose I'll give my two cents. I don't think there's anything wrong with TTC early in your marriage. I am not married, and do not plan on getting married for personal reasons. But I think that as long as you're emotionally prepared (as much as you can be, at least) and financially stable, there's no reason to wait. I was only on BC for about 6 months a few years back, and it messed with my emotions as well. I'm already a very anxious person and I cry easily, so I decided it wasn't worth it for me. It took me about 3 months for my cycles to get back to normal, I think. We weren't TTC at the time, so it's hard for me to be sure since I wasn't paying that much attention to my cycles back then. I wish you the best of luck in this journey, and hope it's a short one for you!
@vec, hoping your appointment goes well! I'll be thinking of you and anxiously awaiting the results. (:
I have been lurking this board for a while, since my husband and I are going to start ttc in October, but this is my first post. I have been so inspired by many of the stories posted on this thread and by what a supportive community this is.
@Dindlee, I thought I would weigh in since I just had a conversation with my doctor about starting to ttc (I have been on bc for years). She said that I should finish the bc pack. She also said that it is definitely possible to get pregnant the first month after going off bc (though not ideal, because it makes it harder to predict your due date). She also recommended that I start taking a daily multivitamin with 800 mcg of folic acid (you may already be doing this, but I thought I'd mention it anyway). I actually couldn't find a multivitamin with 800 mcg, so I am taking both the multivitamin and a folic acid supplement (over the counter). My husband and I will have been married almost three years before we start ttc, and we dated for about five years before that (I am 29), but I agree with previous posters that as long as you are in a stable place emotionally and financially it is not too soon to try.
@lilysong Thank you so much for your prayers. It's certainly difficult to know what to do or which path to take.
@nowakasia I was worried about the FW as well this month. With football season in full swing, I don't see Coach on Tuesday through Friday.... But thankfully I ovulated on a Saturday! I'm praying the timing works out for you!
@alzora I totally get it. Ignoring the calendar may not be an option for you. That's completely okay. We all have to go through this in our own way. I know I want to eventually adopt no matter what. I'm excited about the possibilities!
@nessielove I am so, so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine. Bullying is a sick epidemic. I am praying for all of those love that young man <3
Welcome new TTCers!
5 dpo and I have a migraine and some nausea. Might just be coincidence. Hate the TWW!
@Dindlee, I definitely understand irrational fears! But since all signs indicate that your body is working perfectly, we have every reason to believe that you will be pregnant very, very soon. Focus on that happy thought! :) Also, you're a teacher? What do you teach?
@Vec, your appointment day is finally here! I'm eager to hear how it goes! Wishing you luck.
@Roseymaam, how many DPO are you? Cramps can occur in early pregnancy as well, so keep your chin up!
@Vanessa, I hope that the funeral service does bring you a sense of closure. I found that for me, the funeral of my best friend helped me to really grasp the reality of the situation. You may find that the true grieving doesn't even start until after the funeral, when you are all trying to get back to your normal routines and realize that he is really gone. Your friend will continue to need you, and it sounds like you are being a wonderful support to her. You'll be in my thoughts.
@GIJanie, I'm so glad that you've joined us. October is right around the corner...how excited are you?! Regarding vitamins, did you look into any prenatal vitamins? They should have the appropriate amount of folic acid. My Up & Up (generic Target brand) prenatal vitamins do have 800 mcg of folic acid...and they are easy on the stomach...and they are easy to swallow...and they are very affordable. Something to look into!
@Casi, after you and I get pregnant and have our babies, we can be *adoption buddies* too! :)
@J_Cannoy, bleh...I'm sorry to hear about the migraine. I hope that it ends up having a wonderful cause though; does the thought of a pregnancy make it easier to bear? I hope it has passed by now!
Howdy everyone. I'm 8DPO today. I'm not feeling positive about this month because we didn't DTD heaps and I got a lot of confusing OPKs! So I'm not sure what's going to happen. AF is due next Thursday. I'll probably weaken and test Tuesday or Wednesday! Especially since I got a bunch of internet cheapie pregnancy tests!
@alzora - the doctors weren't sure, but it was probably an infection, as I've never had abdominal surgery before this. The pain came on about 6 months ago, and during one of my hospital stays I had enlarged lymph nodes throughout my abdomen, so it may be related to that.
@sarahmezz - fingers crossed for a BFP!
I'm going to see what my body does now that the post pill AF is over, and start with ovulation tests next month. I think. I keep changing my mind. Anybody on here know where I can get ovulation kits in NZ for fairly cheap?
@alzora. I teach high school Spanish to 135 cherubs ;) my classes are huge this year and I am already drowning in paperwork. But I love every minute of it!
Going to Target today to buy those prenatals you suggest, Alzora! I think I'm going to order the wondfo opks online. Can't hurt right?
@sarahmezz... Fingers crossed for you!
@vanessa, I'm so sorry to hear the news about your friend. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Welcome to the newcomers :) hoping your ttc journeys are short and sweet!
Goodluck for those in the tww! It seems that this month has flown by! As my cycles are longer I feel like some of you are lapping me!
This cycle has been a little easier for me, I'm trying not to look at the calendar and trying not to obsess... I was going to try OPKs this month again, but decided to just leave it as it takes away some of the stress for me. Despite not tracking as much, I think I am approaching ovulation just because of how my body is feeling.
Hoping for some good news on this thread soon! Xx