Thank you so much, alzora and mrstaylor. I'm thinking of you all and sending you positive thoughts.
Thank you so much, alzora and mrstaylor. I'm thinking of you all and sending you positive thoughts.
Hi, I'm a huge name nerd and longtime nameberry lurker. I finally decided to join so I could participate in this thread and maybe help others choose the perfect name for their little one.
My DH and I have been married for almost 6 years and we are finally trying for our first! I am 31 and am a little nervous about just starting to TTC after 30, but we had a lot of fun and did a lot of traveling so I have no regrets about waiting. I just pray we didn't drag our feet too long and can get pregnant without any problems. I have friends my age who have had fertility problems and my heart breaks for them.
Anyway, I look forward to sharing this journey and hearing everyone's (hopefully) good news in the coming months!
Congrats Mill1920, that's wonderful news!
Hi everyone! I have been a non-active member on Nameberry for a while but I've been waiting for the new year to join a TTC thread. I am 29 and have been married to my husband for over 2 years. We tried to conceive for 2 months in the summer of 2011 without luck but then we stopped because I had a nervous breakdown during my doctoral candidacy exams and my life was basically put on hold for a year plus I was put on Zoloft and didn't want to TTC while I was on medication.
This time around we started TTC in October so we have had 3 unsuccessful cycles. I actually got my period shortly after midnight on New Year's so I'm a little bummed that I started out the year on that disappointing note. I have super regular cycles and my basal body temperature tells me that I always have an 11 day luteal phase (which should be just long enough), but I can't help but worry because I have been wanting a child for so long and I ultimately want 3 so I need to get started!
Anyway, good luck to everyone and thanks Alzora for starting this thread!
This is our 5th, I believe, month TTC. Lets see if we can't get a baby to stick this month!!
A little history: started dating when I was 21 and him 22. I moved 2000 miles away (that is the charming Oklahoma to great land of Washington) for grad school, but hubby followed a yr later. Then our cat followed a year after that (we are a tight-knit family of three). We married a year after I graduated in 2010 and bought our charming little home just 6 months after that. All this brought us two devoted newlyweds (now age 27 & 28) to the high risk OB for a preconception visit (I have had autoimmune disease since I was 18 months old; yes over two decades!) ... this was Feb 2012. Well I take plenty of fancy medicines so I wanted to make sure nothing is too harmful (it's not) and had a battery of blood work. Sigh, here is the good part, I have a previously unbeknown autoimmune blood clotting disorder which will only get more fabulous once I get preggo (antiphospholipid syndrome). This means I get to take a baby aspirin everyday now and TWO daily blood thinning shots soon as I get knocked up, otherwise I can like, clot off the umbilical cord and/or stroke out or something. FUN. Diagnosis of APS takes 3 months if you've never had a clotting event or a miscarriage (I am neither, goody). So on top of that I have no immunity to rubella. This means you have to get a booster shot and then most definitely use contraception for three months or it will f' up yo shi. I am not getting the dumb booster, and we've been TTC since September 2012.
I use: Preseed, Soft Cups, Clearblue digital ovulation tests, and Pink Pad iPhone app to monitor cycles/symptoms (delightfully regular). Okay well I've only used the OPK for one month, and it was cool. Women with autoimmune diseases tend to experience subfertility which is why i do all this when it might seem like overkill.
Baby dust! 2013 just feels lucky.
@poppy, we use Preseed too! I'm hoping that hasn't caused us to have four failed cycles? I know it's not SUPPOSED to interfere, but I wish I knew for sure. I'm sorry to hear about all the health complications you've had. Are the shots called Heparin? I had to have those after my bad car accident two years ago. I had to give them to myself in the stomach twice a day. But you would have the advantage of knowing that you were doing it for a really joyful and happy reason (your baby's health!). I hope you get your little baby soon, and perhaps they can use another type of blood thinner for you!
@violetindigo, my mom was 30 when she got pregnant with me and my twin sister, and about 36 when she got surprised with our baby sister. It may take some time, but I have high hopes that you will get pregnant. I know plenty of woman who conceived in their 30s.
@expensivemarket, I got my period on Christmas Eve, so I guess we both got it at the worst possible times! I don't know about you, but I cried. :( Better luck next month!
So sorry to hear of the APA, but you are very lucky it was diagnosed now, before you lost any children. Usually it's picked up only after 2-3 miscarriages.
Anyway, much more importantly, do you live in Washingon State? If so you should know that the anti-vaccination movement is stronger there than anywhere in the country, such that the rates of complete MMR immunization are in the 70s-- yes, 70s, lower than most developing countries. There have been large, hundreds-to-thousands of cases of many of the preventable childhood diseases, including rubella. If you're not immune I would absolutely get the booster. Yes, you can't get pregnant while the virus is in your system-- because congenital rubella is a TERRIBLE thing. Baby will be deaf with a host of birth defects and neurological problems.
Hi Alzora & Blade!
Great to hear from you ladies. It feels awesome finally talking about all these things. Frankly, my real life friends get a glossy look in their eyes when I talk to them about it (and half are healthcare professionals like me too). I basically broke up with a best friend (who is an MD) because when I was telling her all about the work up and diagnosis she thought it be a great time to tell me about her latest shmashmortion (numero 2).
I think Preseed is awesome. I finally coughed up the twenty dollars for it last month, and I think it's worth it. People seem to think it INCREASES your fertility more than a woman who uses nothing during baby dance, which is not true. It's just a little more gentle and thinner so it doesn't hinder anything that would naturally occur.
The shots would be Lovenox (low molecular weight heparin, which is a little different than straight heparin) which is what I bet you were on too if you had to inject your stomach (that is the worst part if you ask me).
I know I should really get the MMR booster, but with the autoimmune diseases I take biologic immunosuppressants. I'd have to hold therapy for something like 6 weeks total to get the live vaccine. After about 3 weeks of no meds I'm essentially disabled and can't work (my job requires standing for up to 12 hours) ... I guess I could get short term disability in the meantime, but it seems like such a burden (and I like money). I'm hoping and praying that herd immunity will be strong enough in my great hippy state of WA to protect me.
Sometimes I feel so selfish trying to get a baby with all of my health issues. I feel really guilty about it sometimes, like my DNA isn't good enough and I worry my future offspring will resent me for giving them a crappy lot. No doctor has told me NOT to get pg, and nothing is directly inheritable on a genetic basis (it's not like I have cystic fibrosis with a clear and direct link, autoimmune disease is only a "predisposition" or something vague). They just look at me with that "you have an uphill battle" kind of face. I keep trying to convince myself that since I'm smart and pretty my baby will get something good out of being my progeny, right? BTW, hubby is totally health (he has perfect vision too, gag), and likewise smart and handsome.
Such melodrama I know!
Question: any other drug store methods to increas fertility? BBT testing was just not for me. I also bought Fertility Scope (saliva fertility test) and that was likewise not for me. Anything I'm missing??
@alzora, I stopped myself from crying because I was at a friend's party so I just had to momentarily convince myself that it could be implantation spotting. My family always says that the way you start off the new year will characterize the rest of the year so I was worried that I won't get pregnant this year, but I just have to keep reminding myself that I'm not superstitious.
Also, I am just about to order PreSeed to use in this month's cycle. I assume it can't hurt!
@poppy528, Have you tried Mucinex? I was thinking of also starting to use that this month because I am not convinced my cervical mucus is of the most fertile quality.
@poppy-- that is what I was trying to say, that herd immunity in WA is *not* at sufficient levels. There, more than literally anywhere else in the country, you should be wary-- especially if you live in the Seattle environs. Lowest vaccination rate in the developed world is Vashon Island, which is hardly surprising.
It's a tough balancing act, I agree. The number of actual reported cases of rubella as published by the CDC is vanishingly low. I suppose, if you had to play the odds, the chance of a disabling flare once your biologics are withdrawn is much greater than the chance of being exposed to an active case of rubella.
Charting your basal body temperature and all that is of limited utility. All it will really do--assuming you do it 100% correctly-- is help you time intercourse properly. If you're having regular, frequent intercourse, it doesn't add much value. Quite a lot of inconvenience and work for basically nothing. If you have any ovulation disorders, mechanical obstruction, endometriosis, PCOS, what have you... nada. It's very passive and completely non-interventional.
I have heard of ladies using Mucinex (guaifenesin) although I haven't done so. It's category C in the US which makes me wary (it is category A for you Aussies though). I might try it next month.