Frangipani, how old is your stepson? It might work out if he is very young and fast asleep... Not so much if he's a pre-teen or older, haha.
Daisychain, I too am horrified by the medical system in the US. We have medical insurance here because it's provided by my husband's company, but in New Zealand we don't need it. Most couples get their first 2 rounds of IVF free and your choice of maternity provider (independent midwives is the most common choice) is also free. As is staying in hospital, all birthing costs etc. I can't imagine having to decide what kind of birth to opt for depending on cost. I just can't fathom how it can be in the best interests of the economy, and the health of children, to cripple new parents with that kind of expense.
Also, regarding your other post - if you start off with a midwife they can refer you to an OBGYN if they have concerns you might be high risk. That's what happened with me; I remained under my midwife's care but had a couple of appointments with specialists because of my medical history.
Lookingahead - good luck!
Day 32 here and still nada.
@sarahmezz, glad to hear your hubby's feeling better. Oooh July 7: 7/7 what a lucky number.
@daisychain, I'm originally from South Africa and my family looked at moving to Australia or New Zealand. That was a while ago now (14 years), so it may have changed. At the time, both countries worked on a point system. You get points depending upon age, qualifications, savings, job offers etc and need to achieve a certain number before getting into the country. We were unable to qualify for Australia but could for NZ. As I say, its been a while so it has probably changed a bit.
@alzora and @khaatje, I agree about those thst have said its too early to judge. I so thought I wasn't pregnant less than a week before my bfp because it felt so like pms. However I did feel mild (slightly different cramping) a few days and also felt kinda like hot flushes. I know you don't want to get your hopes up too much but I do hope you both get bfps on the same day. That would be epic!!!!
@milasmama Whaaaaat still nada, I am so curious with you, what a mystery! Are you still feeling any different? My stepson is 18 - so nah not even thinking about it, haha :)
@frangipani, maybe your stepson will be out late a few nights and you and your DH could go to bed early??? :)
@daisychain, as was previously said, the midwives will refer you for extra tests if they are at all worried about symptoms that might show an elevated risk, or will transfer your file over to an OBGYN if you end up with a high-risk pregnancy -like if you have gestational diabetes or something like that. I was followed by a midwife for baby #1 and at every visit, they checked my urine (for elevated protein & sugar levels) and the baby's heart rate, the same way they did at the doctor's. But, they also spent an hour with me chatting about my fears, concerns, swollen feet, cravings etc etc. When I first went to see the OBGYN (because there's a waiting list to get a midwife here) she spent 5 minutes with me and answered my questions so fast I had no idea what she said. It sounded like she was repeating memorized answers that she had already said 50, 0000 times and could care less about what I thought about anything. Going to the midwife was MUCH more personal.
@Rowan, DH says that you have to apply for a visa or permanent residency status before moving. You have to apply to the city/state you want to live in, in Australia, rather than to the country. He also said that he knows several people who applied to move to Melbourne or Sydney but were rejected, however, applying to a place like Adelaide, where there is apparently a shortage of skilled labour, you are more likely to be accepted. That's what his parents did. :)
Sorry to intrude--I'm not TTC, but I love following this thread to see what I might be going through in a few years! I just wanted to pop in because I recently moved to Australia from the US via a partner visa, so it'd be different from what you'd want to do RGE, but I thought you might find this link useful: http://www.immi.gov.au/visawizard/. It's a "Visa Wizard" which tells you which visas you'd be eligible for given your particular circumstances. Thought it might be a good first step.
On a side note, the prices quoted in that article are horrifying. We were debating moving back to the States at some point, but I can guarantee now that "some point" will be after the kids are born if it happens at all. I never imagined the price of a birth would be quite that high!
Hey ladies! I've been lurking on here for a while now, but am finally outing myself to join this thread. My husband has been set on waiting until our 2nd anniversary in the fall to TTC, but yesterday I convinced him of the logic of going off the Pill a few months early to allow my cycles to regulate. So only a few more weeks of pills and it's go time! We'll be not officially "trying" at first, but still, it's a step forward. Can you tell I'm excited?
Also, @milasmama, I'm curious as to whereabouts you lived in Malaysia. My husband is from there (though he's Chinese, not Malay) and I'm dying to see the country one day.
Welcome Maggie! I'm excited for you too! My DH is also Chinese but from Singapore (but grew up in Australia). In my experience, trying without trying is more fun than the really trying hard part. Hopefully you won't get to that point (or me either this time around!).
@maggie welcome! I hope your cycle gets back to normal soon, or better yet... AF doesnt show up at all!
@milasmamma wow that's even more agonizing than the TWW, hopefully AF doesn't show so when your husband comes back with the test you can get a BFP right away.
My hormones are all over the place, the dishwasher breaking down made me burst out in tears haha. Fortunately I have a couple of busy days ahead at work to keep my mind of the TWW (and the dishwasher), I don't expect AF until the weekend so no risk taking out the disappointment on my poor (thesis-defending) students.
Frangipani, I worked for immigration NZ for a while and can confirm there have been quite a lot of changes in that time. There's still a points system but NZ is much more in line with Aus in terms of how many points you need. And yup, still BFNs! One test tomorrow morning then no more til my husband gets back on the 6th (if AF doesn't arrive first, of course).
Hi Maggie. We lived in Kuala Lumpur in the golden triangle (middle of the CBD). There's a huge Chinese population in KL, it's a complete mix of Chinese, Malays and Indians. I'd highly recommend it if you ever want to move somewhere in Asia (or even just to visit) - I keep looking for opportunities to move back there one day :)
Thanks for the kind words Khaatje and Lilysong!
@Milasmama, my husband is actually from the city of Sibu in Sarawak province, though whenever we visit, I'm sure we'll go to KL too and hopefully stop by Singapore as well. (If you're going to fly clear across the world, you might as well see everything you can!) I hear the country is beautiful and the food is great. BTW, I love the name Mila!