Thanks for the welcome, folks. I wouldn't say it's nice to be among others having trouble, because I wouldn't wish that on anyone. But it is nice to know others understand.
Milasmama, I'm particularly sorry to hear about your losses. Late second trimester sounds absolutely unbearable. But you bore it, and you're trying again, which inspires me.
Andieta, what sorts of specialists do you need to see?
Frances322, can you hold an outdoor party in October where you live? I was expecting to be due in early January and was already stressing out about what that would mean for birthday parties!
So it feels like I just keep getting bad news from my doctor. After the miscarriage, she did a blood panel (which I really should have done before getting pregnant) that showed I have low platelets and low thyroid. Anyone else have experience with this?
So I have an appointment with an endocrinologist next week and a hematologist on the 17th. Until now, I thought I was a perfectly healthy person!
Then, day before yesterday, the doctor calls with the results of the genetic testing she did. I was really not expecting any bad news on that front. But it turns out I'm a carrier for Tay Sachs AND Familial Dysautonomia!! WTF? These are very rare conditions that are recessive and are much more common in the Ashkenazi population than the general one. I'm only half Jewish, and find this particularly surprising. And two of them!
So my husband's going in in an hour for testing. His ancestry is different, so it's extremely unlikely that he's also a carrier for either--although apparently approximately 1 in 50 Irish Americans is a carrier for Tay Sachs. Irish isn't a big part of his ancestry so hopefully that's ok.
When I told my general practitioner I was pregnant, she said, 'Don't over medicalize your pregnancy. Enjoy it.' No such luck.
Edited: medicalize, not medical ooze!!! Ah, iPhones and their senses of humor!
@frances322 - 2nd birthdays are hard. My son is a late summer baby... so we grilled out at a park. But it was so hot that for #3, we rented a room at a hotel and had a swimming party in the A/C. We have a lot of friends that have winter babies... the last 2 yr old party we went to was at a bouncy-house place. It was nice, but hectic. But it had a definitive time frame of 2 hours with an employee to herd the children around. that worked out really well.
A lot of our other friends do the Pizza Party - pizza and cake and gifts and then that's it. And it's worked for 6 years. We're actually doing mini-golf with his school friends and the pizza party for family for his 5th birthday this year. I got a Groupon for the whole golf party, and wanted the family party to be super easy. :)
In regards to family... there's only so much you can do. My in-laws never visit us. They never make an effort to come down. My parents help us throw the party and actually help with the party, so they get priority sleeping arrangements.
Aw, daisychain, that is a lot of unwelcome news. :( The only one I have any experience with is hypothyroidism. It can cause miscarriage, but the good news is that it is common and easy to treat (a pill a day - the tricky part is finding the right dose). Hypothyroidism sneaks up on you and it's not until after you've taken medication for a little while that you realize how much better you feel! At least, that's how it is with me. Good luck with all of your appointments!
As for my specialists - a lot are only semi related to TTC. As I mentioned, I have hypothyroidism, so I see an endocrinologist regularly. The other specialists I have yet to see but they are:
- cardiologist - sometimes have high blood pressure (I blame white coat syndrome - doctors make me nervous! but we'll see)
- geneticist - I have Klippel Feil syndrome, a rare genetic / congenital thing, that might affect my babies/ pregnancy
- gynecologist and nephrologist - so embarrassing, but I have had a wee bit of blood in my urine the last 3 samples and used to have a fair amount of spotting and breakthrough bleeding (although none since I went off the pill), so we need to follow up on it, especially since I have only one kidney (surgically removed as toddler). I've had pelvic and abdominal ultrasounds, both which came back normal. So we will see what the specialists say!
One of my favourite parts about this board is that I am not the only one with a unique medical history. Everyone's is different, but many of us can relate to multiple doctors and appointments - whether it's for TTC purposes or just general health purposes.
Keep us posted as to your appointments, if you feel comfortable doing so.
Andie-- Yikes indeed! That is a lot of specialists. Especially unpleasant when doctors make you nervous.
It sounds like hypothyroidism and low platelets both are associated with miscarriage. Which leaves me with the horrible thought that my pregnancy could have been ok if I had had blood work and gone to the doctor before getting pregnant.
The odd thing is I don't have the symptoms I've read are associated with hypothyroid--weight gain, constipation and fatigue/depression. Well, maybe the latter.
I suppose I should quit speculating and wait until I've heard from a doctor.
Ok: I'd like to end on a positive note. Those of us who manage to get pregnant in the next few months can look forward to having a very well-timed baby (at least those in the northern hemisphere). You won't be heavily pregnant in the hottest months, and your kid will have a good birthday for outdoor parties!
I like your positve note at the end Daisychain! :)
I would love a spring baby but alas, we shall see what happens....
@daisychain, that's a great point! My husband would really love to have a baby born in the spring. And I'd love to be pregnant over the winter.
My period is due today, but so far, nothing. I'd rather just have it show up and know for sure! If it's not here tomorrow, I might test, but I know it's still early. And it's so horrible seeing a negative on the test. So I'll probably just keep waiting. Good luck to everyone else in their TWW!
@daisychain welcome! Sorry to hear about your loss and health problems, I hope they will be sorted out soon! I have ehlers danlos disease which is genetically dominant, so I can def. relate to having to worry about the future baby's health and dealing with many specialists.
@Andieta, wow thats a lot of specialist indeed! Whats the prognosis for future babies/pregnancies?
@rachel, ooohhh exciting, I hope another BFP is coming soon!
@alzora, how are you doing this TWW? Do you feel less stressed his month? My hip should be better in a week or 2, so should be able to handle a pregnancy, but my joints get inflamed at random so now is as good (or bad) as any time to TTC
@Daisychain, I'm so sorry that you're having such a difficult time. How traumatizing! So is TTC on hold for you until you get some health issues straightened out, or are you able to keep trying? I didn't even think to have blood work done before trying to conceive!
@Ktook..."woman cave"...lol, I totally become a miserable recluse too. Hope you have wonderful birthday celebrations next week, and a great surprise at the end of it all!
@Andrea, I'm glad your appointments are yielding positive results!
@Khaatje, every time my hopes start to creep up, I squash them down with a good dose of pessimism. I hope your hip starts to feel better quickly!
Thanks so much for all the helpful birthday ideas!
Daisychain- Yes, last year we had his party outside and I made homemade soup and Martha Stewart's mac and cheese (too die for! If you've never made it, you should, but it is time-consuming) and of course it was unseasonably warm, 80 degrees outside. So Hal was running around in a turtleneck and corduroy overalls and I was serving steaming hot food and in all the pictures everyone has bright red cheeks & looks like they are about to faint! :) Kind of funny, but kind of not too. (Especially after all that hard work and expense!) Maybe one day I will get to have his birthday on a beautiful, crisp, autumn afternoon, but not this year. P.S.- A January birthdate would make me sweat a little too. That could be tricky.
Grecianern- So glad you mentioned the bouncy house idea! I think this is what we are leaning towards right now. Only children under 3 would be attending, so it would be nice for them to have one without having to worry about older kids playing too rough. And that way, we don't have to do it at my house again! Simple, fun, no mess, and it should wear the kids out. Sounds promising.
UGGHHHHHHHH!! I hate the TWW soooooo much. I just want to KNOW already. So hating the fact that I will be spending my hard earned vacation playing mind games with myself and trying to decipher all the random signals from my body as 'real' or as 'you wish you were so your making it out to be a bigger deal than it really is.' Just had to share my feelings before I officially 'unplug' for a week. So frustrating! :(