@ frances, I read about the Shettles method a while ago (is that what you're doing?) and I did think then, it sounds easier to conceive a boy than a girl via that method! But then, there's about an even mix of girl and boy babies, so I don't know if I understand the theory correctly...
@ alzora, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down about TTC at the moment. It must be so hard to be disappointed for 10 cycles in a row. Would you take a break for a month or two? I guess it would be quite hard to forget about but I do know of quite a few women who finally got pregnant when they stopped trying!
I have a bit of a TMI question, sorry. I am SO confused by my cervical fluid! I am just tracking CM and when we have sex this month, my chart is here: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/454474. I expected to ovulate around the middle of the month but I don't think I actually did until around the 19th or 20th. However the last few days I have had VERY light spotting (I only notice when I check my cervix). I am on day 23 of my cycle, surely I cannot still have ovulation spotting?!
Alzora and Milasmomma- Yes, we are 'using' the Shettles method, but not strictly. What I mean is, you can take it to the extreme, and I'm not that committed...yet. I don't worry about what positions, or what I'm eating, etc. I'm using the basic belief that boy sperm swim a little faster than girl sperm, but girl sperm can survive a little longer inside the body than the boys. Based on this, you have sex a good 3-4 days BEFORE you expect to ovulate. This helps stack the odds in favor of only girl sperm being viable once the egg drops. Of course, it isn't full proof. And, b/c I'm not using the sticks to determine my actual ovulation day, I can only use an educated guess each month as to when it will happen. (My cycles are regular, and the average when combined is 28 days.) What I know from my friends getting pregnant, and finding out the gender, and what I know from my first pregnancy, it seems to support this line of thinking. However, I also read about a study that found the best time to get a baby girl was to have sex the day after ovulation, which if true, would debunk this theory completely. So who knows. I'll keep you guys posted as to if it works, or if we give up first. :)
Gosh this has been a quiet few days. Hope everyone is well. We are away for a weekend break. No idea still what is up with my cycle - still getting fertile cervical fluid & now well and truly confused, lol.
Yeah, nothing to report here. I guess I've just started the two-week wait. I didn't do ovulation tests this month, so I don't know which day I ovulated, but I think it was yesterday based on my skin and physical appearance. Lots of fertile cervical mucus for the past three days, tapering off toward the end of the day yesterday. We didn't even try yesterday though. We tried the two previous days and I told him that was good. I have no expectations for this month and am just waiting it out until I can seek medical help in September. I'm just going to enjoy my summer without TTC stress. No more tracking for me. When I see fertile cervical mucus we'll give it a go each month, but no more testing, and no more expecting anything. September is not that far away.
@alzora - I think that's a good attitude to have right now. You're still doing your thing when you feel fertile but not obsessing. I think that's a good way to not drive yourself crazy until September. Good luck to you as always! :)
I guess I am starting TTW. This is my first Clomid cycle, so I went to buy OPKs before starting. I usually just got the smiley versus blank circle ones by Clearblue. Well, I saw these "Advanced" Clearblue Ovulations kits that actually give you three readings.... A blank circle for nothing, a flashing smiley for high and a smiley for peak. Has anyone used these??? So I thought, why not? ha! Anyway, starting Day 11 of my cycle I started testing each morning and it wasn't until Day 18 in the morning that I got a blinking smiley for high. Something made me test again in the evening, and what do you know? Now it showed peak levels with a stationary smiley face. My husband was gone that day so we couldn't do anything but we had our fun the following day. My doctor had told me to try for it the day after it turned positive anyway. Now I've gotten positive readings on one of these before, so I wasn't too, too excited BUT I also started feeling twinges/slight pains where my ovaries are starting the day of the positive and the next day when we BDed. So I am feeling cautiously optimistic. I am really hoping the Clomid worked and made me ovulate. I think we will try again today too, although probably if it did happen, the window of opportunity has already closed. I am also going in to get my Progesterone levels tested in a couple days to see if I did in fact ovulate. I will be really excited if my levels show that I did. I don't want to get too excited otherwise.
Anyway, that's my (long - sorry!) update.
Good luck to everyone else wherever they are in their TTC journey!
Thank you, @Nowakasia! Oh man, I hope you ovulated...it sounds REALLY promising! Eagerly awaiting your updates.
A non-TTC question for anyone who may know (this TTC thread has become my I'm-not-starting-a-thread-for-this-but-let's-talk-about-it thread): Is it true that you shouldn't drink milk on a hot day because it will make you throw up? Particularly if you are going to be doing anything strenuous in the heat? I've heard it from lots of different people for years. But I miss my morning chocolate milk in the summers. Wives' tale or truth? Blade? Anybody?
Ooh, fun. Proteins and fats are more difficult to digest than carbohydrates; they stay in the stomach and upper small bowel longer and need more complex enzymatic reactions to be done away with. In very hot climates, your circulation is drawn away from splanchnic areas like the intestine and towards the skin for cooling, which slows down digestion even more. So if you have a massive protein/fat load from a few liters of full-fat milk, went for a 5 mile jog on a steamy 100-degree day, and decided to lay out afterwards... no doubt, you'd throw up, due to your stagnant GI contents.
I think a modest amount of chocolate milk in an air-conditioned house probably wouldn't have any effect.
Hey again ladies... I posted a couple of days ago how I got my period and at first I was somewhat fine with it since August is the month we want to get pregnant ideally, but now that I had a chance to mull it over I'm actually really sad.. I'm really new to the TTC world- we just started around May and I know it's not taking "too long" at all but I thought for some reason this month would be it. Just feeling kinda down. Congrats to those of you who got their positives and good luck as always to everyone else. <3
BeatrixDaisy- someone else on this tread put it so eloquently when they said it doesn't matter how long you have been ttc, every disappointment hurts, even if we know 'logically' it shouldn't. :) I know what you mean though. I've been getting that special feeling too, (just like last month!) and if it doesn't happen this month, I will be a little heartbroken too. So, allow yourself time to be sad. Good luck next month. Maybe the fireworks of July will bring us all some extra sparkle.
@nowakasia that sounds hopeful indeed! I'm right here in the TWW with you milasmamma and alzora, still hoping July will be our month :)
@ beatrixdaisy hope you feel better soon, only a couple of days left before you can start trying again! @Alzora september is getting close indeed! That would give you just enough time for a summer of pre-baby-bucket-list fun! (And a surprise BFP wouldnt spoil any of it)
No news here either, except for a hip which is painfull from last week's procedure. On days this like this I kind of feel guilty wanting a baby when chances of him or her getting this joint disease are 50/50, but then again I live a happy life so no reason he or she couldnt
Haha your Q&A is even more of topic alzora and blade, but very interesting indeed!