@ loveday, although we have Mila I can relate to the pang of everyone else getting pregnant. I made all my mummy friends either when I was pregnant or when Mila was a baby, so we all have kids the same age. 11 of us in my antenatal class, *everyone* else has had a second baby by now - some of them are over a year old! I know it's partly because a lot of them are in their 30's (I am 26) so have less time up their sleeves than I do, but it's still painful when you want something that someone else has. I am part of another group with about 40 mothers of children Mila's age, and I think around 35 of them have now had a second baby.
This is our first month really trying, but I have wanted a second baby ever since Mila *was* a baby. Hopefully it happens soon for both of us.
@milasmama - I believe it helps if you lie down for a while after sex. I stay horizontal for half an hour afterwards to give gravity a helping hand!
@milasmama I am definitely going to test again! Nipples haven't ceased hurting! Although the rest of my boobs are fine lol as for you Q, definitely try to wait at least 30mins before a bathroom break! I'm like you, I HAVE to freshen up before bed lol
Thanks for the tips ladies!
Just a quick update from me: Got my Wondfo kit and Taking Charge of Your Fertility last night in the mail! TCOYF is fascinating. I need to get a thermometer still and figure out how I want to chart, but I think I will follow at least some of it. I'm so curious to start figuring out how my body works better. On that note, I have finished taking the bc pill. :) We won't TTC yet but it's good to know that I can start getting my body back to normal.
Good luck to you all!
@Caseymay, This happened to me as well. I was on Clomid though so I don't know how normal my situation would be for you. I will say, though, that I got pregnant at the END of this 10 day hormonal "surge"...I think my body just kept trying to "lay an egg" as I like to call it. ;) I, personally, would keep having sex til 1-2 days after you don't see smileys, but that is just me and my paranoid brain! :):):) Every other time that I had a long surge period I stopped having a lot of sex too early so just be aware that if you have more than 1-3 days of smileys then you may not have ovulated yet!
Originally Posted by caseymay
Hi all just wanted to touch base and say hello and thanks for those who answered my dairy question :)
I'm such a paranoid about my diet while TTC - more so at the moment as I'm travelling and am often eating out and probably already having a bit too much wine. One part of me thinks its unlikely for me to conceive this month anyway as its my first month off BC so shouldn't be concerned about the odd glass of wine, but on the other-hand, what if I do get pregnant this month? I'm seriously paranoid! I'm expecting AF in about a week and half... Anyway, fingers crossed for you all especially those in their TWW!
thanks for the support on the whole "i want to be happy for everyone announcing their pregnancies but i can't" thing! reading your responses truly made me feel better about it all.
@sarahmezz - i love your attitude about this just making us more understanding and sensitive to the delicate struggle of getting pregnant that many women go through.
all this being said, its interesting that i am purely thrilled by anyone on this thread announcing a bfp!
@december - i'm also torn by how strict to be with my ttc eating/drinking. last month i was very strict. stopped drinking altogether as soon as my period was over. eating super healthy, very little coffee etc. a few of my pregnant friends or friends with kids that i had told i was ttc were like: why the heck are you being so strict when you aren't even pregnant yet? enjoy it while you can! i am a bit torn. i have heard over and over how it was the month, or week that someone let loose, relaxed and abandoned their strict ttc protocol that they actually conceived! after doing some research and talking to people i do think that its ok to have a few drinks up until the general time that implantation may be taking place.
sending positive thoughts to all!
Personally I wouldn't be too strict about the odd glass of wine here and there while TTC. Given Mila was a surprise I had several glasses of wine in the month before I found out including a couple of nights out where I had a few. I wouldn't advocate drinking *that* much, but I agree with your friends that before you get pregnant is really your last chance to indulge! In general I think a lot of the pregnancy food guidelines are overkill. E.g., they say "no soft cheese" because of the very small risk from unpasteurised cheeses - but anyone who buys their cheese from a supermarket will most likely be eating pasteurised cheese anyway.
Having said all that I have stopped drinking completely at the moment - but mostly because I want to lose a few lbs before I get pregnant again. I have a healthy BMI but I'm 4lbs above my pre-pregnancy weight with Mila. It would be nice not to have this head-start on the pregnancy weight gain front.
@december and loveday - I have a few drinks between AF and ovulation, then lay off the alcohol during my TWW, just in case. However, I wouldn't go on a bender or anything! Regarding food, I'm staying away from dodgy pregnancy foods like deli meats, soft cheeses and sushi, even though they're probably pretty harmless (again, only during TWW).
@milasmama - LOVE the name Sylvia Delphine!