Far out, girls, there's a lot of action on this thread!
@milasmama - My husband and I definitely want to find out the sex of our baby, but we're not going to tell anyone else except maybe immediate family members (if they want to know). You've got to have some surprises to announce! Personally, I'm hoping for a girl, because that will eliminate problems such as naming (husband is dead set on naming a son Samuel James after his father and himself) and the circumcision discussion (husband wants baby boy circumcised). A girl would avoid those issues! Also, I could use my favourite name ever - Susannah!
@butterflykisses and whitegold - Sorry to hear this month isn't your month. Good luck for next month!
@caseymay - Sounds like we're in a similar boat! We got married last August and I've been off birth control since January. We've been actively trying since April. Good luck, hope you get your positive soon!
I don't have any advice, but I can offer the true story of my SiL and my brother- they tried for 11 months to get their first. They both went to doctors and were told nothing was really 'wrong,' but they also were not 'superstars' either. They finally got pregnant with their first and as my SiL was in her mid-thirties, and they wanted a large family, they started trying soon after my niece was born. They are now expecting their 3rd child and will have 3 children under the age of 3. It is craziness at their house right now. Which is just what they wanted, but have faith. Sometimes it really does just take a year!!
I have a similar situation. We want to have a gender reveal shower near the end of the pregnancy and tell everyone like that, we will know in advance though. I kinda secretly want a girl, partially because I'm not crazy about the boy name my husband is set on (Zane Fredrick) and because I ADORE the name Claudia Louise. Not sure where Zane came from and while I don't hate it, it does have a couple negative connotations for me. Fredrick is my DH's middle name and his father's name, that I'm totally fine with.
Originally Posted by sarahmezz
More than the sex of the baby, I'm concerned with getting pregnant soon so I can avoid being massively pregnant during the summer. A bit selfish, but the thought bums me out. I don't do well in the heat normally so I'm concerned that being pregnant during the summer will make the experience more of a negative and I'd rather avoid that.
I should be ovulating this cycle on father's day. I think that'll be super neat if we get pregnant then. Fingers crossed for everyone!!
Well. Hello, AF. I hate your face.
At least it's the start of a new cycle and a new month to try.
Excuse me while I go pout, watch crappy tv and eat chocolate. Hmpf.
Oh my gosh this cracked me up! not that this happened to you but how you reacted, I pretty much did the same thing today! You are not welcomed AF, now leave please.
Originally Posted by casilayne
In all seriousness, sorry girl, what a bummer =(
Wow - what a welcome! Thanks for the kind words!
@alzora - yes, the cyclical nature of this process is emotionally exhausting. While we are enjoying the "trying" part, it really, REALLY sucks to get your hopes up every. single. month just to be let down. And don't get me started on the analyzing of symptoms - sheesh! It wears me out just thinking about doing this again. I wish I could stop - stop thinking so much, stop worrying, stop analyzing. But I guess that is the nature of the beast. It helps to know that I'm not the only one who gets all crazy every month. If this month proved to be unsuccessful, we may seek more help. My period just ended yesterday so I will start my OPK tomorrow - give it the old college try once again! And yes - Jubilee is still one of my favorites. Maybe a guilty pleasure, but it's so fun! Jubal is also fun for a boy - I have a soft spot for boys names that are fun and spunky!
@violetink1231 - The Impatience Express - you couldn't have been chosen a more accurate term! Loving it!
@sarahmezz - Ah, my fellow newly wed! Such a lovely phase of life to me in! I'm trying not to spoil this time with the preoccupation of wanting to be pregnant.
@frances322 - thank you for the encouraging story. I really, REALLY try to tell myself that maybe all we need is more time. It's just beyond frustrating that there is nothing to do but keep trying and then play the waiting game.
@jcannoy I know what you mean about not wanting to be pregnant in summer! If I conceive this month I'll deliver at the end of the Australian summer, so my entire third trimester will be during extreme heat - yay. Oh well, my mum did the same with me (my birthday is February 23)!
Jcannoy, YES! I completely understand not wanting to be pregnant in the heat. We live in the south and the summer's here are brutal. I tend to be a hot-natured person normally, so forget it in the summer time! (DH and I are always fighting for control of the thermostat.:) ) Anyway, it shouldn't get too bad here until June, so by my calculations I have at least 2, maybe 3 more chances to avoid being 9 months pregnant in the heat of summer. Good luck to us both!
Sarahmezz, my BiL and SiL just moved to Australia for two years through a military assignment. We are so sad that we can't afford the plane tickets to go and visit them. Right now they are taking a break in Hawaii, before moving over in June. Just had to share. Australia is one of those places I would love to visit. (Of course, we are also hoping we will have another reason not to fly anytime soon, but who knows when that will happen??)
@butterflykisses LOL! I understand :) I tend to make light of things that bum me out. If I can laugh, then it can't get me down! :)
@Frances, your story about your sister-in-law encouraged me too. Thanks for sharing.
@J_cannoy, being pregnant in the heat of summer wouldn't really bother me, but I've thought about how tough it would be to tend to a newborn who is hot, sweaty, and cranky. Don't get me wrong, I'd tend to a newborn any day, but I watched my little sister swaddle her baby in blankets to pacify her in the winter, and that wouldn't be an option for a summer infant!
@Casilayne, I'm sorry to hear your bad news. :(
@Caseymay, you're definitely not the only one who goes crazy each month. I'm at the point where I'm analyzing symptoms because I'm 8 DPO...and it's not looking good for me this month.
@Sarah, I'll never get used to the idea that Australian and American seasons are opposite each other. If it's too hot in March to be nine months pregnant in Australia, just jaunt on over to Pennsylvania. You'll be begging for summer again!
Is it too early to say that I can feel my period coming? (8 DPO, period expected next Wednesday or Thursday.) I really don't understand the female hormone cycle, so this confuses me: I got a zit the other day, my libido has risen, my legs feel tense like they always get before my period, and I just feel like my period is getting ready in there (I don't know if you'd call it bloated or crampy or tense or figment of my imagination). Implantation occurs around 7-12 DPO, and I am only 8 DPO, so does the fact that I'm having these typical PMS symptoms mean that my window for implantation is closed for this cycle and my body is moving on toward menstruation? Or could these symptoms be happening prior to implantation? I hurt my brain thinking about this.
I've been feeling pretty hopeless about the whole thing though, for a few weeks now. I mean we'll keep trying through the summer, but I really think we need a freaking semen analysis and HSG, which we can't get until September, and I feel like any attempts before that are futile because I think something is wrong. We KNOW his testosterone is low, so that right there is our first red flag. My accident injuries are another. These blind attempts each month are maddening.