@Violetink, have you sought any medical help for fertility? I can relate to your feelings of despondency. But what are you going to college for? That should be a cool distraction!
@Butterflykisses, :(. I feel you. Just :(.
@Frances, I did forget a few:
OH means "other half."
SO means "significant other."
TIB is one we made up in this thread, and it means "Theresa in Billing." It's an inside joke about a women who works in the billing department of a fertility clinic in my area and threw a wrench in my plans. We occasionally refer to similar office people in medical clinics and/or insurance agencies as TIBs, depending on how helpful they are.
@Casilayne, eagerly waiting!
My period is still seven or eight days away, but today I began to feel very not-pregnant. I got a zit on my face like two days ago, my libido is rising like it usually does for PMS, and I feel like I'll get my usual PMS cramps and weird achy vaginal sensation any day now, because that crap always starts WAY early for me. It's too early to really analyze anything seriously, as I am only 7 DPO, but I have a strong inclination that we will be trying again next cycle. :/ C'est la vie.
@violetink and butterflykisses; ugggggggg indeed!
@milasmamma; what was in those pills, pure vitamine A or on the form of betacarotene? How frustrating you have to wait that long for orders to arrive.
@Casilayne; here's hoping!
@Alzora; I was just gonna say don't forget about TIB! I understand you don't wont to be disappointed again, but 7 DPO is very early to call it quits, your egg probably only just arrived...
@Alzora Thanks! I bought a test and am trying to hold out until tomorrow. Lol We'll see... Ugh :/ I have my fingers crossed for you! That last week of a cycle is also the worst for me :(
@khaatje Thank you very much!
Hello Ladies! This is my very first post in this forum, though I have been keeping tabs on it for a while now. I don't know why I was reluctant to post initially, but I'm very happy to make the leap from lurker to contributor. And although I haven't read EVERY page of this forum, I've read a great deal and feel as though know some of you just from your stories.
I guess one of the main reasons I decided to join this forum is because my husband and I are TTC (obviously) and also because of the fact that I haven't told ANYONE in my real life that we are "trying" and sometime I'd like to talk to someone about it other than my husband. He is very supportive and open to talking about even the most intimate (ehem...sometime gross) parts of the TTC process. But still, he is not a woman and sometimes I find myself wanting to discuss things with people who are going through the same thing. So here I am!
Just a little background - I'm 29 and my DH is 28. We got married last July (almost one year!) and have been LOVING married life! We decided right after Christmas that we would start TTC, knowing that it could take a while. I went off birth control (after being on the pill for somewhere around the vicinity of 15 years) at the end of December. At first we weren't so much "trying" but rather "not preventing." But for the past 4 months I've been using a OPK (the clear blue easy digital one) and trying to get more serious. Every morning, I'd pee on the stick, wait for the flashing (or stable) happy face and get really excited. But after 2 weeks, AF always arrives - pretty much right on time. My cycle is about 27-28 days long, which I think is pretty average. However, I don't usually ovulate until CD 17 or 18 - which seems much longer than that standard CD 14. Would any of you know if this could be a potential propblem? I guess in my mind I thought that after 6 months of trying, I would most definitely be pregnant! I'm finding out that sometimes it just doesn't happen like that...
I know I should be patient and wait the requisite year before seeking out additional help, but I can't help but think we are spinning our wheels. What if we try for a year and there has been an underlying problem all along that could have been fixed if diagnosed earlier? I've asked my DH if he'd be willing to get his sperm analyzed, as that seemed like the easiest/least invasive/cheapest "first step." He was totally open to the idea, but I don't even know where to start - where does one go for a male fertility test? WHat kind of doctor do you generally see for that?
I appreciate all the little bits of knowledge that I've already gathered just from reading the previous posts, and I'd appreciate any tips you gals might have.
Thank you for cheering me up, Khaatje and Casilayne.
Hi, Caseymay! Glad you felt comfortable jumping in! I can't answer your concerns about ovulating late in the cycle, but it sounds like your luteal phase (the time between ovulation and menstruation) could be a bit short, though I believe 10 days is still considered normal. If you want to be paranoid you could look into "luteal phase defect," but of course I'm no medical professional and have no idea what I'm talking about. ;) I just like to be paranoid about things myself so I'd be Googling up a storm over that. But really, there may be no problem at all. That's what people keep telling me too. "There could be nothing, it just takes time!" But I know what you mean about wanting to rule out problems NOW. Because every single failed month is like a knife going through the heart, and to have people tell you to keep doing the same thing you've been doing for six more months just feels so pointless. If what we've been doing hasn't worked thus far, why should we believe that we will get different results one of these months?! I'm on my tenth cycle of trying, and it's the most emotional journey I've ever been on.
As for getting your husband's semen analysis done, you could see either a fertility specialist or (I believe) a urologist. I'd love to be able to see the urologist who saved my life the day of my accident (he dotes on me :) ), so if that's an option we may go that route after we've tried for our full year. But also I think our general practitioner could place an order for the test at the hospital with which he is affiliated and we could do it that way.
Anyway, I wish you luck and success. Where are you at in your cycle right now? Enduring the two-week wait?
butterflykisses: Thank you! I have found that everyone on this thread is very supportive and kind! You all definitely make me feel like less of an ogre lol :) I'm sorry that AF showed up. Here's hoping for next month!
alzora: You and I have very similar problems when it comes to insurance. I'm also still on my father's plan (Blue Cross/Blue Shield) and because I am classified as a dependent, I get exactly one visit to the gynecologist per year. Period. I visited mine in March, so I won't be able to go again until March 2014, which is well over a year of trying. I also highly doubt that my insurance will cover any tests I may or may not need to check for infertility. That's as much as I got from TIB (Thaddeus in Billing, I had to deal with a man) on the subject, anyway. I'm going to get my BA in Education and eventually I would like to teach high school English. I also plan on taking creative writing classes as well. The dream is (when I don't have to be a responsible adult with bills anymore) to write novels.
caseymay: Welcome aboard the Impatience Express! Sit anywhere you'd like! Seriously, we're glad you're here :). It's great that your husband is so open about everything. I think I spent the first months of our TTC process completely horrifying my husband with all the gross stuff; he's pretty immune now, though ;). I honestly can't help you when it comes to getting sperm analyzed and other medicals procedures, but we have plenty of knowledgable ladies available here! Good luck!
P.S. @Caseymay: Jubilee = awesome name for a girl. You may also like Jubal for a boy (Hebrew name, mentioned in Genesis 4:21). There was an old man in one episode of The Andy Griffith Show named Jubal and it struck me as particularly fabulous.
Welcome @caseymay! :) I don't have any helpful bits or advice to share, but I'm wishing you the best and look forward to what you find out as you continue to TTC!
@Violetink, are you on the Blue Cross Special Care plan? If so, they SAY that all infertility screening is 100% covered up to the point of a diagnosis. BUT here's the clever loophole they've made for themselves: Fertility clinics bill all infertility screening under a diagnostic code of infertility. That's just how clinics HAVE to bill it--every office I've talked to. If infertility is what you are being tested for, then their only option is to bill it under one of the infertility codes. But the dumba$$es over at Blue Cross look at that code and say, "Oh, she has been diagnosed with infertility, so we won't cover that." Even though you HAVEN'T been diagnosed yet--the tests are for the purpose of finding the problem--Blue Cross claims that the code of infertility means that you HAVE been diagnosed and therefore they will not pay. I cannot tell you how angry this whole scenario makes me.
As for your one visit to the gynecologist per year, I have the same thing, AND...this makes me angry too...back in like March I went for my annual exam with the gynecologist. I was assured that the whole thing would be covered. So when I got to the doctor's office, she did the exam and then I proceeded to ask her questions about fertility. Later, I was billed for an office visit. Blue Cross informed me that the clinic had billed for one annual exam PLUS one office visit because I had asked the doctor questions above and beyond what constitutes a normal annual exam. I only asked like two questions that took no longer than five minutes for her to answer. I think that is just low and greedy.
Awesome that you are going to be an English teacher, and even more awesome that you're taking creative writing classes! I wish you luck in your profession and in your writing.