@Butterflykisses, I am still holding out hope for you this month! Not all pregnant women get sore breasts and all of that, especially not so soon. I'm eager to see where this goes.
Thank you for asking how I'm doing. Yes, I'm in the two-week wait, about 5 DPO. Implantation would not have happened yet, and I would not be feeling anything yet either way. I'm not holding out too much hope for this month, because I feel like a lot of factors are working against me at the moment--my cold (which is better, but not gone), my husband's low testosterone (I decided that testosterone shots are not the direction I want us to go, and my husband was more than happy with that decision), and then lots of little details have me second-guessing all of our attempts to date. I read somewhere that a man should be ejaculating every four days or so to keep his body producing a normal amount of sperm. We have never done it that often--again, that goes back to my vaginismus. And I also read that you should ABSTAIN from sex for about three or four days leading up to your fertile window so that his sperm builds up, but we've always had sex for several days in advance of ovulation--often a day or two before my fertile days really start because I jump the gun. And then there's the question we've talked about before of whether we should have sex every day or every other day during the fertile window. We've been doing it every day, but if his sperm is low, that may have been counterproductive. AND--this one is kind of personal--I worry about whether we penetrate deep enough. Sometimes I know without a doubt that he is penetrating completely, but other times I think vaginismus still makes it tight and we are only getting a shallow penetration. But the thing is, the semen DOES go in. I know it does, because I lie in bed afterward and there's no mess until I stand up. But I question whether enough of it is getting far enough in...I really don't know the distances in there, or the force with which it is deposited.
So in short, I'm not too hopeful for this month, and I feel like we won't have much luck until I get on his insurance and we really get some medical professionals behind us; they really do obsess over that One Year mark for TTC, so after September doctors will take our case more seriously.
@Cambria, a large paper has never interested me for exactly the reasons you mention. I'm not into high-stress, fast-paced jobs. I grew up in a Mayberry town and true reporting, with all of its competition and deadlines, is not for me. I'm more into dropping by an old person's house with a recorder and letting him jabber away about local history for a human interest piece that has no deadline but just runs when I'm good and ready to send it in.
I do not chart my BBT, but I do use Wondfo ovulation tests. I also am very observant of my body, so I keep a close eye on cervical mucus and I know that when my skin looks clearest and my eyebrows and leg hair grows fastest, I am fertile. Since you're new here, I'll add my background: this is my tenth cycle for TTC. We just found out that my husband has low testosterone, and the doctor wanted him to do testosterone shots but I read too much online about that and am not up for the idea. He has not had a semen analysis but we will pursue it in September at our one-year mark. I was in a very bad accident in 2010 and may very well have scar tissue blocking my Fallopian tubes but am unable to pursue a test to find out until I get on my husband's insurance in September. That's it in a nutshell.
@butterflykisses glad I'm not the only one who feels so attached to a name that I must use it first! Yay late period! Crossing my fingers that this is your month! ;)
@alzora I also feel more attached to my favorite girls name than my boys name! I must be the first in my family and friends to use Eleanor!! Or I will cry! I don't feel like Milo would be an issue because it doesn't seem like my friends or families' taste! Narnia is gorgeous! Never would have contemplated using it as a name! I also love the way it looks! I hope we are all the first to use our fave names!!
Update on my situation: still no AF. Started getting yellow-y cm. and my nipples hurt. Perhaps she will make an appearance later this week!
@butterflykisses - Good luck! I've got my fingers crossed for you!
I'm currently in my fertile window, but I'm sick! I think it's tonsilitis flaring up again. I have a doctor's appointment later today. We're still trying this month, but I'm not sure of our chances with me being unwell. This month I bought some Robitussin for the purposes of thinning my cervical mucus; ironically, I've ended up using it for its intended purpose as a decongestant lol.
@alzora - Forgot to ask, why no testosterone shots? Do you have a plan of attack atm or are you going to wait until September? As far as amounts of sex go, for your husband I think every second day would be better so his sperm can build up more :)
Thank you, @Whitegold! Eleanor and Milo...such classy, vintage little names! I guess you weren't on the thread when I explained my reasons for wanting to use Narnia. It has meaning for me that goes back to my accident and weeks in the ICU...and it has sentimental value because I walked down the aisle to a score from one of the films...and the books revolutionized my faith...but the main thing is that I just adore the sound of it. Narnia is the Latin name of an ancient city in Italy.
@Sarah, what a disappointment to be sick at ovulation time! I'm holding out hope for you anyway. I wish I understood more about the effects of minor illness on conception. As for the testosterone shots, I just have a really bad feeling about them. My husband was already afraid to take them because of the side effects--his doctor said it would be like going through puberty again. But I read too much online about them, and everything I'm seeing--I mean EVERYTHING--says that those shots will cause his body to stop the production of sperm. I understand that the doctor has studied medicine and I have not, but if these shots really aided fertility in men with low testosterone, I would expect to see at least ONE positive comment about it SOMEWHERE on the worldwide web. But all I see are horror stories about men who took the shots and ended up infertile. A mistake like that takes months and months to reverse. No thank you.
Also, my husband got his blood drawn late in the day, after a long day of work, and I read that testosterone levels should be tested in the morning because that's when they're at their highest, and they fall throughout the day. So my husband's testosterone level, which was found to be "low average" from that late-afternoon blood test, may not be low at all anyway, and we have no idea what effect, if any, it is having on his sperm. I don't want him to take testosterone shots until we know for sure that his level really is low and that it really is affecting his sperm.
My plan of attack is this. We keep trying until September with no help. That is our one-year mark, so doctors will take us more seriously, AND I'll be on my husband's insurance and will have access to tests myself at that point. If we don't conceive by September, I want to start off first and foremost with a semen analysis for him, followed by (hopefully) an HSG for me. But I'm hoping we conceive by September and can skip all this stuff.
Do any of you pet-lovers worry about what effect a baby will have on your pet? My dog Bing is only two and is used to having my undivided attention. I get sad for him when I think about the change a baby will make. I guess that sounds crazy, but those of you with pets might understand.
@alzora, no definitely no Target. There are no American shops in Male' - no fast food, no Starbucks either. I have to say I find the non-pervasiveness of those brands here quite refreshing. On the other hand shopping is incredibly specialised here which can be a pain. For example you won't get a shop that sells bathroom stuff but you will get one tiny shop selling only plugs, another only taps, yet another only sinks... and so on! Add on to that everything shutting down 5x per day for prayers (the Maldives is an Islamic country) and I end up doing most of my shopping online.
We probably won't still be here when Mila is five - our next move is most likely to China where she will probably go to an international school. If we were still here though then yes I would homeschool her.
I have heard about nausea with prenatals, I can't remember it from last time but I have heard that whole food prenatals generally involve less nausea as they have less dyes etc in them. They're not as cheap, though.
Re: your ttc journey, if you want the tests done can you not just tell your dr you've already been trying for a year? I guess that is maybe my impatient side coming out - I am not very good at waiting, lol.
@Cambria812 thanks for the tip, just checked and the multivitamins have 1mg of folic acid in them. Hey, has anyone else read about folate vs folic acid? I have read several times that folate is preferable to folic acid but need to look into it a little more.
Re: names, are your partners on the same page? We had another name discussion yesterday and my husband decided he doesn't like Delphine after all, gutted as if we have a girl that's my favourite name! I feel like I might have a boy next time, though. No idea why. There are 3 grandbabies in my family so far and all are girls!
@whitegold, Eleanor is lovely!
According to my doctor, I have a throat infection. I've been prescribed a delicious combination of penicillin and ice cream. Here's to a quick recovery! I've taken copious amounts of both medication already :)
Thanks ladies, you are so sweet and encouraging. I have been feeling minor cramping so I'm sure AF is gonna make a late entrance (or is exit the proper term?) But I still have some, just some, hope.
@alzora, I wouldn't stress so much about the penetration thing, I have been told that those spermies are much quicker than we think they are and while yes its not a bad idea to get close to the uterine opening I would highly doubt that it would devastate your chances... but I do understand why would be somewhat worried. Maybe its something worth looking into?
I have also heard that men should be ejaculating every four days to help keep healthy sperm flowing through. And that sex everyday doesn't give the sperm a chance to build up (this is more important with men with lower sperm count) What I have been trying to do is guess appropriately on when I think I will be ovulating and start sex every other day right before ovulation. Some sights even say every 2 days! But I don't want to do that, that sounds like it would be easy to miss ovulation! But you won't really know much unless you know your husband's sperm count.
So insurance won't help you out till its been a year? I hate that. I feel like telling them "HEY! Something could really be wrong and I don't want to wait!!!!" Stay hopeful girl, you have no for sures yet and your time just may be coming, I feel like it will be soon ;) I hope it is your month.
What turned you off to the testosterone shots? I'm just curious.
@whitegold, I sure hope you have a girl first! I am waaaaaaaay more attached to my girl name over my boy name, while I would love a son I am so anxious for my girl I want her first Lol hehe. I would love the comfort of knowing I have have snagged the name first. I haven't been telling people my girl name for fear of them using it if I don't get pregnant soon ya know?
@sarahmezz, that sounds so miserable! I have never had tonsillitis, but I'm sure its just awful =( But I'm still confident that if it is meant to be it will be! Beat that tonsillitis' lousy butt and kick it to the curb! Lol. I have my fingers crossed for your fertile window right now! Stay relaxed and do what you can to enjoy yourself, but its more important to get healthy! Good luck lil lady!
@alzora - I'd be very surprised if testosterone shots had that effect on your husband (loss of fertility). Aren't they supposed to increase his fertility/sperm count? Maybe loss of fertility only occurs in men who already have normal testosterone levels and increase their levels by taking supplements. If supplements bring your husband's levels back to normal, surely his But I understand not wanting to take something you're not sure about. fertility/sperm count would be normal, too? Also, yes, I worry about my dog! We have a two-year-old Labrador who's very much our baby and I worry she'll get shafted once a real baby comes along! But, actually, I think she'll be great with children. She's a very sweet puppy :)
@butterflykisses - Thanks, and good luck to you, too!