Alzora, I totally relate. I'm in the same situation. It was relief to most likely not be me but at the same time made feel a lil hopeless as well. Just hang in there, and remember that the longer you try the more your odds go up. So your're already nine months down! Down let it get you down too much, the chances for you still sound good!
@Butterflykisses, is that why you have been struggling to conceive? I apologize for not remembering details--there are so many people sharing stories on this thread that I get them all mixed up! Does your husband have low testosterone? Is he taking supplements?
Whoa, hang on...I just read through a Google search that testosterone shots will take his sperm count straight down to zero. Blade?!
You might be reading about anabolic steroids, which suppress endogenous testosterone and gametogenesis. Men who abuse steroids often develop very tiny testicles and even breasts, paradoxically, and make very few sperm.
No dice. I got my period last night, almost three days late. Thanks, mother nature. I'm feeling a bit depressed today because I was so hopeful. Now I'm just trying to see the silver lining of falling pregnant next month instead of this month. Loveday, I hope your news is better than mine!
@alzora: I don't specifically know about his testosterone, but he does have a low sperm count, not severely low (13 million per ml with above average motility and speed and low morphology) I'm assuming its because of low testosterone (but he has a very high sex drive, so I don't know....) but at the same time I have heard identical twins (my husband is an identical twin) tend to have a lower count. It could be a total hoax, but its in the back of my head. He has cut alcohol completely since it can instigate estrogen in men and has been taking folic acid and a multi vitamin, which in the end all helps. Also working out increases testosterone so I am trying to encourage that in his busy busy work schedule. We will get him tested in a couple weeks and I will keep you updated to see if this helps or not!
I'm sorry to hear that sarahmezz =( Its so annoying when mother is cruel like that. =( better luck next month!
So sorry about that sarahmezz :-( Such a cruel trick. Baby dust for next month!
alzora, even couples with sperm problems can get pregnant on their own. It is just less likely to happen. So I wouldn't think that you have no chances of conceiving for 6 months, just low chances. It could still happen, and every month that your hubby's testosterone gets better, I would guess that your chances for conception get a little better. (Blade, please correct me if I'm wrong on this.) Sperm production is actually an amazing process, and sperm are produced incredibly quickly. I hope things get better sooner rather than later, and that your hubby doesn't have too many problems with the testosterone supplements.
I was told it takes about 3 months for new sperm to mature before ummm....ejaculation (that felt inappropriate Lol) Is this true?
My husband was told by his doctor that he could use either some kind of topical gel or these monthly injections to boost his testosterone. He chose the injections because the doctor said that if any of the gel got on me it could affect me, and the doctor talked about its potency like it is practically radioactive, and there is also the chance of it getting wiped off or rinsed off before being fully absorbed, so the injections sounded easier. Would these injections be anabolic steroids? Here's some of the stuff I was reading online about testosterone supplements/anabolic steroids and their effect on fertility...and I admittedly have no idea how credible this is:
"Whether fertility is affected by testosterone replacement depends on many factors. As a general rule, male infertility is only very seldom caused by low testosterone and boosting testosterone artificially usually reduces fertility. In fact, relatively high levels of testosterone act as a fairly effective form of birth control.... In certain cases, however, judicious manipulation of testosterone can improve sperm counts, motility, and morphology. This is best done, in my opinion, by using medications that indirectly boost the body’s production of testosterone rather than using testosterone replacement itself."
(link one to an article by a urologist, link two to an Asbury Park Press article, link three to a New York Times article)
I think I will call his doctor on Tuesday and request a semen analysis. The doctor has not wanted to do that test yet since he expects a low sperm count based on my husband's testosterone levels, but I think it would be beneficial to know just how low it is. And I want to talk to him about these testosterone shots to make sure he isn't unintentionally hampering our efforts to conceive.
I'm just really confused at the moment. All we know is that his testosterone level is low ("low average"), and we are thus assuming that his sperm count is low. But all of these articles--that may or may not be credible--are suggesting that testosterone supplements are not the answer, and I don't know what that leaves us with if that is truly the case.
@Whit, thank you for cheering me up. You're right, it only takes one sperm to get pregnant, so I guess our chance is still there each month--provided he is actually producing sperm, which I would like to have confirmed by a semen analysis.
@Butterflykisses, it kind of sucks that our chances are lower than for the average person, doesn't it? But I guess we hang onto hope and keep trying. I too have heard that it takes sperm three months to mature, but then I've also heard that they are produced daily, so...huh?
@Sarah, that is such a HORRIBLE, AWFUL feeling. :( I'm so sorry for your disappointment! I've had two months like that so far, though neither was as long as yours was. Both times were still devastating. Ugh...on to the next cycle. Right now that probably sounds like forever, but it really does go by quickly when you think about it. In two weeks you will be ovulating again.
Testosterone levels above normal suppress fertility, below normal men have hypogonadism with sub-par fertility. The links you offered say exactly that-- testosterone ABUSE suppresses fertility, but supplementation to achieve normal levels has great effect. Taking Tshots is standard therapy for hypogonadism-- it doesn't render patients paradoxically infertile, don't worry!
If your husbands T level is low-normal he might have a perfectly normal sperm count, normal motility, normal morphology, etc. Or those parameters too might be low-normal.
And re: sperm: they are made daily, tens of millions of them very single day (though if a man ejaculates very infrequently production is suppressed). It takes between 70 and 85 days for particular sperm to go all the way through the system-- from the seminiferous tubules in the testis to being front of the line, mature sperm ready to get out and see the world. Hence if you do something to kill them off-- like sit in a 150 degree hot tub for two hours-- you're infertile for approximately three months. And if you're on therapy to boost production, you won't see the final effects for approximately three months.