@Whit and butterflykisses, you are so sweet and encouraging! And you are right--my husband shouldn't worry about a normal testosterone level. Thank you for sharing your insights and perspectives. I agree wholeheartedly with you both. I think that my husband will agree too that NORMAL levels of things are to be desired, not feared. He's not afraid of cheating on me because that would simply never happen, but I think he's afraid of instinctively becoming like those men who look at women and just see pieces of meat...but that's so not him. I think he worries that it's somehow in his blood, but he was raised by an outstanding mother, and that, coupled with his faith, has turned him into a man quite unlike the other males in his family. His doctor did warn that testosterone supplements could make him grumpy and harsh, and that worries him too, but I don't think normal levels of testosterone would do that to him; he is, by nature, quite gentle (lol...he would die if he heard that, because he is also a black belt and restrains troubled teenagers every single day...gentle, but not a pansy).
@Grecianern, ahhhh!!! I'm feeling very optimistic for you. It sounds like your fears are weighing heavily on you in the midst of this hope, and I think that's to be expected after your recent tragic disappointment. I can't relate to that firsthand, but you have my support and are in my thoughts, and I'm hopeful that these next few days will signal the beginning of a healthy and happy pregnancy.
I woke up feeling restless with my own TTC prospects. I feel like it's on hold for two to three months, and my husband hasn't even had the blood work yet. I'm impatient, but at the same time I'm mulling over the idea of literally postponing TTC for about two months. I mean, if his testosterone levels are low, does that increase our chances of an unhealthy conception from abnormal sperm? Also, it would give us a chance to take full advantage of our (hopefully) last few months of the honeymoon phase without the TTC process overshadowing everything. This past cycle, my period came about a day later than I expected it, and I began to panic on Monday morning. I was lying in bed praying for my period to come and telling God that I'm not actually ready to be pregnant just yet and that I need more time with just my husband. This feeling has come over me a few times in the past several months, and I've been shrugging it off as anxiety that will pass, but maybe I should heed my gut instinct and take a few months to just revel in being with my husband without TTC. Maybe if he goes on testosterone supplements I should soak in two months of JUST me and him, and revel in it, and then when his sperm is in a healthier state mid-summer we can begin anew and perhaps I will feel like it is finally truly time to take that step. I mean I want a baby more than anything, but I've had this nagging feeling in the back of my mind that I haven't fully enjoyed this fleeting phase of my life. I say all this, but my fertile days are approaching in about one week and I don't know if I will have the fortitude to resist TTC. You know how it goes. Can I hold off until the July cycle? That's asking a lot of myself. I know that my husband would support either decision.
Just got off birth control and TTC! Not aggressively trying, but will let it happen naturally!
@Alzora - Thanks.
As for your concerns... I say just let things be. I know it sounds contrite, but you're anxious and worried. Run through your husband's battery of tests, enjoy the honeymoon for a while longer, and just find peace with yourself. I think that you need to take some more time. Don't stop focusing on your health, but relax and enjoy the time while getting your ducks in a row. So that way, when you are 110% ready for baby, everything will fall into place. And if it happens on it's own, then wonderful!!!
Thinking of you... and all of us on here.
@gracianern, I'm hoping and praying for good news for you and your husband even if you're afraid of hoping, I'll do it on your behalf :)
@alzora, I can't imagine how your patience must be tested by TIB, tests and testosterone! I have to wait till after a procedure on June 13 before TTC and even that seems like eternity
Welcome to all the new ttcberries, hoping this summer will bring many BFPs!
@grecianern - Hoping on your behalf! :)
I took a digital test around 3pm today.
POSITIVE!!! In less than a minute.
Tomorrow, I'm going to call the doctor and demand some blood tests.
I'm a little worried and freaked out.
Does anyone know what happens with a pregnancy after a miscarriage?
That's sooooo exciting and soooo scary all at the same time gracianern!!! I can imagine you are very much freaked out. The doctors didn't expect any problems in future pregnancies right? I hope they can do some tests/ultrasounds to give you some assurance, I am now hoping and praying for a happy and healthy pregnacy on your behalf!
Congrats, gracianern!!!! How exciting!!!
Re: miscarriage: It depends on how far along the baby is.
I have 6 beautiful angels in Heaven. My best advice (that I learned the hard way) is to count every single second that you carry you precious little bit as a wonderful blessing. Whether it's for a few weeks or 41 weeks, it is a miraculous honor to be his/her mother <3
I'm praying for good reports from the doctors and a healthy, wonderful pregnancy! :)
After nearly 6 months of not ovulating at all, it looks like I'm actually ovulating....and on schedule! Hopefully I will have some good news in a few weeks! :) **fingers crossed*
@grecianern - Congratulations! Thinking of you and hoping everything works out.
@casilayne - Fingers crossed for you! It's a great sign.
Personal update - AF hasn't arrived yet, but is due on Wednesday. I'm not expecting a positive this month, unfortunately. I'll let you all know the outcome...