Personally, I'd much rather be younger when I have my children. I do not want to be 40 years old and potty training.
However, some women would prefer to be older. I know a woman how had her first after 30, and she was much happier that she waited. Her second child came at 36, and she said she had even MORE patience with the second one.
So it's person to person, and I'd never say one it ultimately better than the other.
But for me, I know being a younger parent is likely much better for me and my ideals. I wanted to have my first at 21, but seeing as I'm 19 and nowhere near where I want to be, I've pushed that date to about 25.
But who knows where I'll be at 25, I might have to wait till 30.
What do you consider young and "old"? I would rather be the child of a well-established thirty year old couple than the child of teen parents or parents in their early twenties who don't have their crap together every single day of the week.
Older parents with younger children because individuals should become adults before they can raise kids.
My mum had me at 21, and while she is a brilliant mum, she was a single mum for a long time and had to work full time to support us, so we went to a babysitter after school until dinner time. She never had a lot of time or energy to spend with us until she could become a SAHM when I was in my teens.
I had my youngest at 36. My partner and I were financially secure enough that I've been able to be a SAHM for their early years. I've done a lot more things with my kids in their early years than my mum ever did.
I'm not saying I suffered or mum was wrong, but I'm much happier that I waited to have my kids until I was older. And yes, I've done potty training in my 40s and it's not the end of the world though i'm not looking forward the the sleepless nights again.
I think it depends on the family dynamic. I'm 23, married and have 2 children. I love being a young Mum but hate the stereotype people have because of my age. I was with my husband for 5 years and married for 1 before we had our eldest but people always assume we got married because we were having a baby. People say I didn't get to travel the world or be a successful career woman before having children but I feel like I didn't truly live until my children were born. They are my world and I had no understanding of love or life before they were bought into this world.
I don't think there's something wrong with any of them. People are ready for children at different ages.
I turned 20 exactly one month after my son was born, and I'm now expecting number two. When s/he is born, I will be 22 and 4 months.
I like that I'm a young mom, I still have a lot of energy and I won't be super old when my kids are grown up. But, in some ways, I wished I was a couple of years older. People have a lot of prejudices about young moms and if I was older I would have gotten more life experience. If I was going to say what the "perfect" age for the first kid was, I would probabl say somewhere around 23-28.