I don't think it's too late to change her name or that it will harm her if you do. I'm much more concerned about how the event would play out in your family--both your immediate one and your extended one, including close friends. I feel the only really graceful way to pull off a name change would be to create some kind of really fun/noble ceremony to do so--and I'm not sure how Finley would take to that unless a special role could be created for her as well. My husband is so down-to-earth and practical it's hard for me to even imagine him going along with this if I were in your shoes, but maybe yours is more open so it could work out. My vote is always for the greatest good. Would changing her name make most of the people in your lives happier?
Thanks for all of the suggestions. I'm still searching for something that I love and think would be perfect on her. I think Chloe is a beautiful name, but I don't want her to have a generic name since she is so special to me. While it is a great idea to find a name that sounds similar to Chloe, such as Cleo or Clover, I don't like them as much as I like Chloe. I tried Cleo for a bit, and it just didn't fit. Also, I've heard quite a few references to Miss Cleo. Clover, in theory is very pretty, but when said aloud sounds too much like Grover to me. So, as Pam said it is troubling that I don't have a name in mind. I might have to use a nickname, such as Scout, or call her June. If I do come up with a name that I love for her, I will add it to the front of her name and keep Chloe June as middle names. I have found and heard suggestions of names that I like but not that I love enough to change her name. Please keep ideas and suggestions flowing! Thanks so much!!!
Just a quick note, I was not being serious when I said, "Poor thing will have an identity crisis!"
kgill - you describe my scenario exactly. It is that feeling that she was named too quickly in hospital and that I didn't get it exactly 'right'. She is so beautiful and precious that you want the first big thing you do for her (naming) to feel perfect. My hsb is also happy to support a name change but loves what we have and has bonded with it immediately.
I don't think that Harlow is so different to Harper - and so would be quite an easy transition. My experience has been that you are the mother and will be spending all day, every day with your baby and you need to be able to enjoy that name. The mother-daughter relationship is special and our daughters name means a lot to us. Your hsb will adjust. The earlier you do it the less of a big deal it will be.
It was important to me that we both felt conncected and bonded to the name but that didn't happen...and life's not pefect. As a mother I want to feel great about my daughters name. I felt great about the boys name we had - it had lots of meaning and connection for us. I desperately want to find that same feeling in a girls name and then I am happy to change it.
I am sorry to hear about this. If it were me I would just keep her name Chloe June and just call her and have your friends and family call her June or Junie too! Good luck.. I believe her name was given Chloe June for some reason and after 1 1/2 years it would be a shame to change it. It will be ok! ;).