Category: nameberry question of the week
Calling all name nerds! This question/challenge of the week is aimed at you:
If there weren’t any restrictions—no real life spouse to compromise with, no in-laws to contend with, no last name to match, no concerns about overpopulation or putting six fantasy children through college–
WHAT WOULD YOUR IDEAL, PERFECTLY NAMED FAMILY BE?
The family can be any size you like.
Today’s QOW was inspired by a comment from jgirl525.
This week it’s a two-parter:
a. What’s your response when you meet someone who shares your own first name? Do you feel an instant kinship or do you feel more proprietary? If it’s a popular name, do you immediately start comparing nicknames and wondering why your parents chose a name like, say, Jennifer, of which there are now (literally) 1,424,755 in the world?
If it’s an unusual name, do you feel just a little bit resentful that it’s not yours alone?
Today’s Question of the Week comes from the pages of our very own forums:
Is there a name that you wish you were gutsy enough to use—but probably aren’t? One that you really love, but fear is too extreme?
Are you afraid of the effect it would have on your child–or other people’s reaction?
FYI–some of the names your fellow berries have put on the table:
It’s long been a precept of Nameberry, and of our books—dating back to Beyond Jennifer & Jason and more recently in Beyond Ava & Aiden– that names of siblings should ideally share a similar style and feel, not matchy-matchy, certainly, but complementary yet distinct. And thus the concept of sibsets was born.
We still feel that way, but we’ve been seeing something of a backlash emerging lately. For instance, for the past couple of months, there has been an interesting thread on our forums, posted by a berry expressing concern about ‘breaking the mold’ set by her first daughter’s very feminine name, wondering if she was locked into choosing an equally feminine name for her second or could use a completely different kind of name that she has fallen in love with. A number of interesting points were raised, some people feeling that the whole sibset obsession has gotten out of hand and is unnecessarily restrictive. Where do you stand?
Today’s Question of the Week was inspired by a suggestion from anniebee:
What iffy reactions have some of your choices gotten from non-name fans?
Have you ever gotten a quizzical look, a raised eyebrow—or worse—in response to one of your faves, a name known and loved on Nameberry, but which others out there in the nonberry world might never have even heard before—or else find hopelessly old-fashioned?
What is the most extreme reaction you’ve received to your name choice either while you were still considering it or after you had already used it for your child?
What was your response to their response?