Category: Navigating Name Problems and Disputes
My husband and I are expecting our second child this summer. We thought we had chosen the absolutely perfect name. It’s the name that we have been calling the baby for months. It just felt so right.
So what’s the problem?
My father drowned in a boating accident when I was four. Obviously, I was too young to know the details. Imagine my shock when I told my mother we were naming the baby Henry, and she replied that my father’s accident happened in Frederick Henry Bay.
I am absolutely devastated.
Some say it’s a good sign to use the name. I’m not sure, and yet, we can’t find another name we love as much.
I hope you can help!
The Name Sage replies:
by Paul Ratner
As my wife and I are counting down to the birth of our son, we are happy, eager, completely discomforted (well, that’s mostly my heroic wife) and stuck in agonizing limbo over choosing a name for our upcoming guy. It seemed like a simple enough thing to do. There are a million names out there to pick from. But immediately, we realized that choosing a name for this very new person is a tremendous responsibility. He’ll have to go through his whole life with it, responding dozens of times a day to the combination of sounds we pick out for him. And each such word carries the whole gamut of human experience in its letters.
I would like to honor my recently deceased father, Early Bernard, but I am drawing a blank! I just cannot see myself naming my child a name that would be shortened to Earl. His nickname was Early Bird, so I have flirted the idea of incorporating Bird somehow. But how?
I gave them all three names for personal reasons, and my son will have three names as well. I would prefer that no two of my children have the same first initial, so J, M, T, and W are out.
The Name Sage replies:
By Abby Sandel
Mikayla’s family lives in another state, but we’re part of a large group of friends, and we do see each other a few times a year.
Given the circumstances, can we still use the name Mika?
If we do use the name, what is the recommended etiquette we should follow? I don’t think we should have to ask to use the name, but I’d hate to see it cause problems in our group of friends. I also worry that our daughter would be called “the second Mika.”
We’re looking for a long name – three or more syllables, with a similar style to her sisters’ names. But it needs to have a different sound and dominant letters, so we can’t repeat anna/enne/lise/viv/elly.
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