Category: Navigating Name Problems and Disputes
When my husband and I had our first child thirteen years ago, choosing her name was one of the easiest decisions we made. We struggled more with the paint color of her nursery and which diapers we’d go with than her name. I knew that I wanted to use Maura somewhere in there but I wasn’t adamant that it had to be in the first name slot. We casually tossed around a few names that we liked, a couple that we didn’t hate and several that were absolutely off the table.
One day, my husband mentioned Juliet which I knew instantly was going to be our sweet wee girl’s name. Only, I wanted to spell if Juliette as it seemed a bit more feminine and I liked that it was a tad longer next to our short, masculine last name Wood. So that was it. It was very casual and stress-free and done.
I did consider that she may be teased as she grew older about the Romeo and Juliet association, but, really, that seems like a pretty awesome thing to be teased about to me. I can think of about a thousand worse things to be made fun of for… like the guy I went to high school with named Richard Head. When several of the boys in our school realized that Dick is a nickname for Richard…sheesh. I felt awful for him. A name used in a Shakespeare play seemed pretty benign, if not totally cool, to me.
Your mouth popped open.
Your jaw dropped.
You simply could not believe what your mother, your spouse, your college roommate, that stranger on the message board said about your baby’s name….or your own.
What’s the most outrageous, insulting, ignorant, ridiculous thing anyone has ever said to you about a name?
If you’ve been lucky enough not to be on the receiving end of a crazy name statement, what have you overheard someone else saying?
Pam Spam: That was a rare one, easy to ignore.
Were you ever teased about your name? In what way? How hurtful was it — did it verge on bullying, or was it more affectionate, even a sign of popularity?
And what about your children’s names? Did you look for a name that was tease-proof, or at least one that would not lend itself to teasing?
Has your child gotten teased about his or her name? Do you find people more tolerant and less prone to name-teasing today than they were when you were growing up?
Please tell us your experiences around names and teasing — either about your own name or the names of your children and loved ones.
My husband and I talked about names on our first date.
What was meaningful, I think, is that our baby name discussion signaled we took each other and our relationship seriously.
Which may be exactly why some couples don’t talk about names until they’re expecting a baby or (this is hard to imagine, but maybe it’s true?) the child is actually born. Honey, we forgot to name the baby!
So when did you and your partner first talk about baby names?
What sparked the discussion, and what did you say? Did you learn anything about each other or your relationship in the process?
It was an intriguing question posed over on the forums: What would your children be named, if your partner had complete control?
In my case, my husband would have chosen names from his family tree….very very sleepy names.