Category: Naming Siblings and Multiples
I hope that you might be able to put some fresh eyes on a debate my husband and I are having about the name of our second child!
Our first is named Ivan Lawrence. I liked that Ivan is different, but not too different. I also liked the nicknames Ives and Van. My husband studied Russian Literature in college. Lawrence is from our family tree.
We cannot seem to think of a name for our second if it’s a boy.
My husband loves the popular classics: William and Alexander, maybe James or Benjamin. I like traditional names, but prefer mine a little less common: Abram, Abraham, Abel, Malachi, Arthur, Theodore, Leo, Alistair, and Louis. He’s willing to consider Lewis.
We’d love to find an older name that feels contemporary, but not trendy. We like names with nicknames and don’t like last names as first names. Our middle name is already set: Richard, another family name.
I am starting to feel like the name we need doesn’t exist!
My husband and I are expecting our third baby on February 7. We have decided that we won’t find out the gender. We’ve already used the two boy names we have always loved for our two sons: Henry Hiram (often called Hal) and Joseph Magnus. Both names carry personal and religious significance for us.
If this baby is a girl, we are considering Mary Grace. Whenever I tell people we’re thinking about the name Mary, they wince and seem to really not like it! They say it’s too common, even though my kids do not know one little girl with the name and very few people of any age with the name anymore. We also like Elizabeth and Lydia.
I have a gut instinct, however, that this next child will be another boy. My husband and I are so stuck! Nothing seems right.
I like Thomas, James, Patrick, John, or perhaps Charles. My husband doesn’t like any of these, and the name I love the most, Patrick, has been rejected because of the starfish on SpongeBob SquarePants. He has suggested Abraham called Bram, Sven, and Simon Peter – which seems very heavy to me. Ephraim is a possible middle name. We have ruled out Brigham, Phillip, Benjamin, Ezra, Judah, Caleb, and Theodore.
We tend to like more traditional first names with less conventional middles. All of a sudden, February 7th seems so close, and if this baby is a boy, he does not have a name at all!
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Our baby boy is due in two weeks and we are running out of time!
We have two daughters – Noa who is 10 and Talia who is 7. We live in Toronto, Canada. I’m Israeli and my husband is of Indian origin. We are raising our kids Jewish and are looking for a modern secular Israeli/international name that is pronounceable by people here.
As our daughters are older, they want to be involved in the name choosing, which I love in concept, but it makes it much, much harder to come up with names we all love that meet our criteria. My husband and I love Elliot (even though it isn’t an Israeli name, we could nickname him Eli), but the girls HATE it. We like Yonatan and Eitan best as Israeli names but are unsure about pronunciation/fit here – what do you think? Uri is a favorite of mine but totally unpronounceable here. We all love Ben but not sure if its substantial enough by itself. Benjamin is nice but a little too traditional and not so Israeli. We also like Daniel and Ariel but again these seem traditional. Ely is taken by a good friend. And finally, Micha (but I pronounce it the Israeli way and I don’t love the North American pronunciation).
We would love to hear your thoughts and suggestions. Thanks!
My husband and I are currently expecting our second child, due on January 1st. We have decided not to find out the sex, which, although special, is making deciding on a name twice as difficult.
Our son’s name is Dougray Dawson, but he goes by Gray primarily. I absolutely adore his name. It’s unique and meaningful – Dougray is after my father, Douglas, and Dawson is after my father-in-law, David – but also familiar because of his nickname.
Thank you so much!
The Name Sage replies:
We are expecting our second daughter on January 11th. I have been obsessed with naming children for as long as I can remember. My best friend even gave me the book Beyond Jennifer and Jason as a present in the sixth grade.
Surprisingly enough, I never imagined it would be this difficult to choose a name for my child. Our first daughter was named a day after we were engaged … it was easy and perfect. She has the same full name as my husband – Morgan Campbell – but we call her Junie, short for Junior. We love it and it fits her just perfectly.
For the second though, we are all over the place. I’m afraid my problem is that I’ve thought TOO much about this over the years. The “rules” I have in place for the perfect name all contradict each other, so no name is perfect. Until, of course, I think I find the perfect name only to have my husband simply say, nope.
We would like the middle name to be Clyn (pronounced like “Klein”, my father-in-law’s first name) or Christopher (my mother-in-law’s first name).
We have considered the following names, but none of them seems quite right: Caroline, Kendall, Halle, Marlowe, Autumn, Isla, Abel, Georgia, Annika, and Bronwen. My husband likes Campbell and Parker, but I don’t. I like Corinne, Korin, Eden, Elin, AJ, EJ, or Eira, but my husband does not.
In general, I’d like something that is different, but not made up; feminine, though I seem to love unisex names. I’d like it to go well with Junie if at all possible, but not too matchy. Except I love most nicknames ending in the ‘ee’ sound.
I’m so afraid it’s going to end up being a last minute decision that’s going to feel like we are settling and would really love to avoid that, if possible.
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