Category: Middle Names
They love Silas, but their last name sounds like Smith. Try saying that five times fast! How much does first-last name harmony matter? If Silas is off the table, which names should they consider instead?
My husband thinks this doesn’t matter that much as his full name will be reserved for formal situations – or when he’s really in trouble!
We’ve also considered Asher, Alder, Humphrey, Beckett, Remy, and Jonah. My husband loves the idea of Ezekiel, nicknamed Kiel for the German city. I just don’t love Ezekiel. None of these have really stuck.
How much should the appeal of a full name factor?
The Name Sage replies:
We’re expecting a baby boy, due in May, and our name crisis is twofold.
First of all, my partner and I are having a confidence crisis over the name we were previously set on – Leonardo, or Leo. We like Leo as a given name, but we’re not keen on shortened/nickname versions of a full name being put on the birth certificate. Leonardo would be there if our child wanted to use his full name later in life, and I liked how distinguished it sounds – and its catalogue of interesting namesakes!
However, I’m getting cold feet as we get closer to our due date. I’m starting to think that Leonardo is a bit of a mouthful and that we’d just never use it. The other name I would have used in a heartbeat is Theo/Theodore, but a co-worker recently used it for her baby boy, and I just don’t think I could use it for that reason.
There are only a few other names I like at this point. Oscar is one that my partner and I both like, but I don’t love it. And Lorcan is one that I really like, even love, but my partner isn’t keen on it at all!
The other part of our problem relates to middle names. We aren’t yet married, but have agreed that our baby will have both our surnames. We’d like to use Berry as a middle name, as it was my partner’s mother’s maiden name, and honors his much loved and missed grandparents. But I would also like our boy to have a first middle name – John – to honor my grandfather.
My partner thinks this would make our baby’s full name far too long, but I’m not so sure.
What do you think?
The Name Sage replies:
My husband loves Barrett, I just don’t. It sounds odd to me, and as my children point out rhymes with carrot, ferret, parrot …
I’ve suggested Logan and Wyatt, eventually swaying my husband to go along with one of them but then second-guessing myself. Will it be too popular? Sound strange as an adult? Does it sound strange with the only middle name we can agree on? (It’s Odin – my husband wants to continue the “O” middle pattern.)
I think I’m the problem. I just can’t find a name and stick to it! Help, please.
The Name Sage responds:
By Abby Sandel
Middle names haven’t always been standard issue in English. The aristocracy used them first, but it wasn’t until the twentieth century that it became the norm for almost every child born in the US to receive two names – or sometimes more.
This week’s baby names in the news illustrate nine approaches to choosing your child’s middle name. If you’re stumped, this list might help you brainstorm possibilities for your little superstar.
By Tiana Putric
Each time I read the Nameberry forums I am especially drawn to the posts written by soon-to-be parents asking fellow Berries for help in finding the ‘perfect’ middle name for their baby. I believe I can propose a solution that will not only please the easygoing and the persnickety but could possible change the way parents name their sons and daughters:
Rather than bestowing your just-born baby with a first name, a middle name, and a family name, I encourage you to consider allowing your child to choose his or her own middle name upon their sixteenth birthday or thereabouts.
I speak from experience.